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Welcome. Unfortunately you will probably never get her to realize there is a problem. Most with dementia have anosognosia. This is the inability to recognize their symptoms or limitations. I would stop trying to convince her, it will only upset her. I would suggest you make an appointment with her doctor and bring in a note before the appointment explaining in detail all the symptoms you are seeing and concerns you have. I would also tell the doctor about any over the counter “brain medication she is taking. Tell her the doctors office called and they want her to come in for an appointment to check her ——-(blood pressure, blood sugar, heart, whatever works). There are some treatable reasons for dementia type symptoms, so it’s important for the doctor to rule them out. There is not much that can be done for the dementia itself, but if she is depressed or suffering for anxiety (both very common with dementia) there is medication that can help. You may have to find another workaround to get her to take the medication. My mom was pretty grumpy and didn’t want to take medication for her so called mood problems. I told her it was for her blood pressure and that worked. I know lies (therapeutic fib)seem wrong, but if it gets her the help she needs, in my opinion it’s worth it. As capable as she may seem in some ways, decisions need to be made for her not with her. If legal matters have not been addressed I would make an appointment with a lawyer right a way. A DPOA is very important. My recommendation is to approach this in much the same way. Tell her you are both get older and it’s a good idea to make sure all your legal paperwork is in order. Don’t tell her it because of her memory issues! I’m glad you found our group. I will attach a few resources that might be helpful.