I need advice please

Momx3 · February 14

My DH (64) is mid stage 5 dementia. We live about 20 miles out of town in the country. I still work full time in town Monday thru Friday. He no longer drives and is at home alone while I work. I have installed cameras so I can check on him visually throughout the day. In the last few months his short term memory has become nonexistent. I’m thinking about moving into town so he isn’t as far away from me while I’m at work. I worry about the change of moving might make things worse. Any thoughts or experiences with something like this.

terei · February 15

Unfortunately every case is different. Some LOs do just fine with a move but more than likely a new home will cause some issues, especially if you have lived in the current place a very long time. Possible problems could be exit-seeking, wanting to go ‘home’, wandering, agitation, etc. Sorry, but I dont think anyone can be definitive about this.

Goodlife2025 · February 15

Would the move be worth it as your LO advances through stage 5? Not to be harsh but you are on the edge of your person needing someone with them 24/7. I had to retire early to take care of my DW. Looking back on the last year even if I had installed cameras; the number of things she would have or could have gotten into …. In no time at all they can be in serious danger even living in town may not be enough of a solution and certainly for only a limited time.

Michele P · February 15

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/75370/i-need-advice-please

As others have mentioned, you probably are close to not leaving your husband home alone. Get a plan in place asap for in home care whether that is someone coming in to care for him or you caring for him if that is a possibility. Safety is number one, and you cannot anticipate what could go wrong with him being left alone including wandering and getting lost. I have had personal experience with a relative turning on the stove and leaving it on, getting lost for three hours before gps trackers, and getting into an accident when she shouldn’t have been driving. These events occurred when her husband thought she could be left alone for a few hours. Any change in environment is extremely confusing to someone who has Alzheimer’s. However, if a move makes sense, do it sooner than later. Others who have moved on this site moved to where they saw themselves living after stage 8.

Momx3 · February 15

Thank you all for the insights and advice. I can’t believe I hadn’t even thought about how close we are to him need 24/7 care. That definitely changes my thoughts about moving into town. Also, I hadn’t thought about myself in regards to stage 8.

I need advice please

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