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How to handle selling the toys

Hi. I am new to all of this. My DH has been diagnosed with moderate to severe LBD. We live in the country and he has many toys. I have all the keys to the toys but it is almost a daily game of asking if he can use the John Deere to move the snow or another piece of equipment. I know I will need to sell the toys, but do I involve DH in the process or just do it? How do you handle the backlash afterwards?

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  • Timmyd
    Timmyd Member Posts: 312
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    For us, there was a period of a few years where DW could not drive but was still very attached to her car. I would drive her in her car and it would make her happy. Fortunately she rarely asked to drive. After some period of time, the disease progressed, she became disinterested in her car, and I sold it without any complaint. I guess my point is that there was a period of time where she could not use her toys but was still attached to them. Then she wasn't and I sold them.

  • annie51
    annie51 Member Posts: 583
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    I had the same experience as @Timmyd. DH eventually lost interest in things over time and then it was easy to just sell them.

  • Chance Rider
    Chance Rider Member Posts: 245
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    As @Timmyd and @annie51 experienced, my husband lost interest in his toys so it was easier for me to sell them. We also live in the country so it meant selling our tractor, motorcycles, etc., and soon I’ll be selling the horse trailer. I think it may actually have been harder on me since I was aware of the significance of getting rid of things.

  • jgreen
    jgreen Member Posts: 242
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    Welcome @mscarsue Glad you found us.

    My DH is right where yours is at - wants to use his toys, or work on them! I wish I could sell them but we are not at that point yet. He is a little better at letting me drive the car but every once in a while when he feels the need he will demand the keys so he can drive himself. Those are the battles I try to avoid.

    We have a boat that is depreciating in value daily and an airplane ‘kit’ that he was trying to build when this awful disease took over! So I have parts and pieces everywhere and he is online looking for more pieces for projects he will not be able to finish! It is frustrating, sad, disheartening, and messy! And I just try to look past all of it (not my nature) and concentrate on small things that will keep him calm and feeling secure and loved. That’s all the love and patience I have these days.

    I know there will come a day when I can sell or get rid of all the stuff - but will that make me feel any better? Just thinking that thought helps me deal with the present and see that he finds some pleasure in looking at and touching his toys.

    You will find a way to manage your DH’s toys that works for situation. God bless you and your DH.

  • countrywife
    countrywife Member Posts: 14
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Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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