Struggle with my identity 🥴

I received a call from my dad gf he was transitioning a year ago, I tell her to call ambulance, something felt off. Dad is hospitalized, no longer walked, multiple infections, and weird things begin happening with his girlfriend. She blocked me, she told hospital they were married, she would talk to him like a brainwashing way, she was'nt honest or forthright with me or hospital. Next thing you know, she sneaks drugs into the hospital to give him. From then on her and their friend group start going crazy. Snuck in made fake poa, tried to cash his soc security check, tried to coach him into abuse claims, tries to manipulate staff, ofc stole all my fathers things, ran up all utilities in his name, just hell on earth for a year. I became conservator last summer and everything I do they coach my dad into retaliating against me with elder abuse claims. He is total care and has been in skilled nursing facilities all year, so everyone knows im not abusing him. Omnibudsmen, court, health dept all closed reports, because they see the history & timeline. As conservator I had to file elder abuse restraining orders, small claims, etc. They have moved on from coaching him into elder abuse claims, to mefical neglect, which is wild because he is in a licensed memory care HIGHLY reccommended by regional omnibudsman...that did'nt work, so now they are trying to find an advocacy group to get around his lawyer (who knows just who they are 🙄) to say memory care is not equipped to care for a wheelchair patient. Btw, his roommate is in a wheelchair 🤔, he refuse showers, socializing, and getting out of bed…yet he says its due to lack of equipment, he requested sliding board- git it, he said old wheelchair hurt his bottom- got new one. Its him refusing, not lack of. Previous social worker, current admin, and adult protective services suggest I take the phone, because he's basically isolated himself to the bed on phone with abusers. I only wrote half of what we been through the last year, so Im always on edge, always anxious something is about to happen. So now I present anxiety ridden and high strung. Its wild!!!! Crazy part is at night, when I check on him, we are both chill like our normal selves, but day time is hell. Any advice on any of this??? Especially taking the phone eventially?