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  • H1235
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    Welcome. I’m sorry you need to be here. Someone needs to be appointed durable power of attorney as soon as possible. His dementia symptoms will only get worse and he is going to need someone to care for him and advocate for him! This is NOT a phase, it’s part of dementia. Does he have children or family? Have they been notified? I think they should be, even if he feels you are betraying his trust. People with dementia often have anosognosia. This is the inability to recognize their symptoms or limitations. Chances are slim he will be able to recognize when he is no longer safe to drive, manage medication, handle finances or live alone. People have lost their entire life savings because they were scammed. Decisions need to be made for him! Just because he doesn’t get lost when driving doesn’t mean he is safe to drive. Driving involves being able to react quickly, good judgment, and good visual spatial skills... I would guess that even though he seems fine some days there is a lot going on behind the scenes that indicates he is not fine. I will attach a few resources that might be helpful.

    Anosognosia and Dementia - AgingCare.com.pdf
    DBAT.pdf
    understanding-the-dementia-experience.pdf
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/268071#Comment_268071

    I’m sorry I offended you!

  • sandwichone123
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    He will need medications for his symptoms.

    While you may have all the legal paperwork in place, I think it's fair for people to point that out for most folks on their first post, as many people are not aware of the importance of these documents. I'm happy to hear that you have already completed those important first steps.

    It's not an insult to provide additional support. While you know who you are, we don't, but we still want to provide information. It's necessarily general until we learn more about each individual's situation.

  • harshedbuzz
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    @shack607

    Hi and welcome. I am sorry for your reason to be here but pleased you found this place.

    This particular combination of general paranoia and delusions about you planning to take his property and the neighbor harassing him at night is concerning. The possibility exists that your LO might act on those delusions about the neighbor and confront him which could end badly if local LE becomes involved or if he shows up at the neighbor's house some night. For some reason, battles with neighbors are common in dementia.

    There are medications that can quiet these sorts of thoughts but not all PCPs are comfortable prescribing and you'd have the issue of compliance with taking the medication.

    HB

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  • terei
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    It’s unclear what you are looking for. If you want to respond without contradicting and agitating him, you could say ‘I’m sorry to hear about that. Is there anything you want me to try to do about it?’ If you want to stop the symptoms, only proper medications will manage them.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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