In home care

Kiki87 · April 19

I think the time has finally come for my mom to get in home care. She cant toilet anymore without someone wiping her. However, the thought of someone else cleaning my mom makes me cringe and I don't know how she will react. How did you get past this to hire someone ? Ugj this is so so depressing!!!!! Yesterday was her 79th birthday and I am so so grateful she is still with us. Any advice appreciated.

SDianeL · April 20

make sure the caregiver has dementia experience. They are professionals.

bbbww · April 20

in home care can be challenging. I moved my mom in with my husband and I 2 years ago. She doesn’t need 24 hour care bec I am here most of the time but we have slowly found good caregivers. I found a young nursing student who had experience from her time working in a nursing home and through her she shared another friend who had just graduated from nursing school and was only working part time with a family. I also took advise from every friend I spoke with that had a name suggestion and I kept a list of those and when I saw the same person recommend often them I contacted them. I tried to go through 3 different agencies but bec I didn’t need someone consistently that did not work with the ladies they sent out (I was uncomfortable with a couple of the ladies they sent out). Trust your instincts as it’s hard to have someone you don’t know taking care of your mom. I highly recommend cameras so you can monitor the situation as well. Best of luck to you and finding wonderful care for your mom!

Leevera10 · April 20

@bbbww: Thanks for sharing. I think the idea of a new grad is fantastic. They are alert, vibrant, and new to their career - but they will want to make a good impression to build upon. There is something to say about their youthfulness and they may have new ideas. So I believe that they could do a good job with guidance and open communication from family. They should be more easy to coach and pick up on what you are putting down. In my opinion, sometimes with more seasoned nurses - they could be complacent, and not wanting to try new ideas because they've seen it all already; and may not be as attentive as you would prefer.

fesk · April 20

Whoever you bring in, I recommend starting slow. Maybe don't jump right into personal care. Let your mom get used to the person. You also have to get used to the person and build up trust. Then gradually introduce personal care - starting with both of you helping and then eventually only the aide helping. Have all the necessary supplies on hand - like gloves. Gloves should be worn for this type of personal care. I also agree with cameras. Any aide that does not want to work in a home with cameras - you do not want. It is difficult to do and I wish you the best of luck. (Beautiful picture by the way.)

Becca loves her mama · September 2

I am just starting the process of getting an in home caregiver for my mom. She needs constant attention when awake and all adl help. I dont know what best route but maybe nursing student over agency based on this threas. And we will be adding cameras. Im 47 and live at home last 5 years with my mom and dad but it gets harder everyday. I work full time outside the home and dad volunteers weekly to keep livin his life as well. Any advice welcomed. Sorry yall in this terrible club...remember to see the moments of joy.

Peace

Rebecca

This is my first post in this alzconnected so any recommendations to follow would be appreciated.

In home care

Comments

Commonly Used Abbreviations

Community Guidelines

Categories