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Activities for care receiver

JK1810
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I am new to the forum. I'm looking to find activities my wife can do. She really enjoyed reading both with physical books and articles on the web. The books have become hard to find she can enjoy, let alone follow. The computer has become too complicated for her to work of her. Any Ideas?

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  • Ed's mom
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    Just today I bought my LO a 10" Kindle. Kindle is what she used years ago before phones and computers, it's familiar. I set up the large font and downloaded a few books and magazines.Teen books are interesting and easy to follow.

    Delete all the apps you can, leave the few she needs. Using a wax pencil I circled on the screensaver the apps she will use.

    No keyboard, few buttons, large font and good accessibility using only voice if you set it up that way for her. Hope this helps

  • JK1810
    JK1810 Member Posts: 3
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    Thanks. I tried to get her to use her old iPad but perhaps it had too apps. I'll try again, using your idea.

  • Chris20cm
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    Adult coloring books, big selection of colored pencils that I keep sharpened, and 500 or 300 piece jigsaw puzzles which I have to help with now.

  • H1235
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    Maybe some of the chicken soup for the soul books would work. I believe the stories are quite short. If the actual reading is an issue, you might try audio books.

  • Chas/Judy
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    Welcome to the forum. I too am looking for ways to keep my DH mentally stimulated. I found a book of very short stories (large print, two pages each about the size of a coloring book, so its easy to handle.) it’s called “Short Stories for Seniors”, by Meadowlight Books. He reads them and sometimes the stories will spark a memory that we can discuss which might lead to more memories to discuss. He also likes to play single trivia games, but we work together as a team. It’s called “Trivia Crush” and its really basic, but we laugh a lot. I know there are other trivia games that are more challenging, but this one is fine for us. If I find anything else, I’ll let you know. Glad you brought this up- keep us posted if you find other ideas.

  • Dirigo
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    Springbok makes an excellent series of puzzles for people with dementias, 36 or 60 piece. My DH has visual-spatial problems, so even these puzzles require my help. But he likes to set them up and work on them. We rotate through about 15 or so, and since he doesn’t remember very well,sdoing a puzzle he has done before presents the exact same challenges. As for reading, keeping track of characters is hard. Series books are good; my DH is slowly working through the Paul Doiron series of Maine mysteries. He uses a Kindle. TV series with too many characters present similar problems but he is currently enjoying Schitt’s Creek, since the characters don’t change much. We listen to books in the car (via audible ), and he enjoyed Mutiny on the Bounty. Now, to my astonishment, he is quite enjoying Donna Tartt’s The Goldfinch.

  • Michele P
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    My mil loved paint by number types of pictures to paint. The nursing home had the memory care residents paint on a regular basis. You could call a local adult day care and ask what types of activities they have during the week.

  • Call me Gram
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    Thank you for mentioning Trivia Crush… my DH is going to love it!! I'm also going to buy a couple of the short stories books. Even if DH won't read them himself, maybe he will let me read to him, one story at a time.

    My cousin suggested I read to DH as a replacement for the "Karen" stories he is listening to on YouTube. 🤨 DH has focal seizures (silent seizures/absence seizures) and I think staring at the computer screen during the YouTube stories is one of the triggers for them.

    The activities everyone is suggesting will be helpful! Thank you all!

  • White Crane
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    You have been given some very good ideas. Keep the puzzles easy with large and easy to pick up pieces. Buy coloring books that have simple drawings. My DH enjoys Lincoln Logs or building blocks. Colorforms is another idea.

  • harshedbuzz
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    My aunt enjoyed adult coloring books for a time. We got her the Dover ones that featured fashions. They also have things like National Parks and automobiles.

  • JK1810
    JK1810 Member Posts: 3
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    Thank you all for the ideas. You've given me some possibilities to look try.

  • Chris20cm
    Chris20cm Member Posts: 158
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    Yes, and mandalas, gardens, nature and wildlife, many different things depending on their interests.

  • howhale
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    Finding activities your loved one will accept, enjoy and engage in is difficult as their condition advances. I tried so many different ones. Occasionally she would color when myself or a caregiver did it with her but it was usually quite short term before she stopped and just sat. I found some inexpensive toys online for children with autism and bought some. She actually played with several and a few became her favorites. It is a never ending process of searching for the next thing to try to help. She seemed to enjoy best the toys she could manipulate with her hands easily and would switch from one to another. We would join her and allow her to govern our participation with her. On toy set had a selection of colored "jelly" worms, much like what is used for fishing. Those became her favorite for a while as she tied them into knots, untied them and repeated. Best of luck to you.

  • tonyac2
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    My DH and I spent a lot of time together doing puzzles. Now his only interest in them is feeding the pieces to the dog. :(

  • Chris20cm
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    DW is losing interest too, but at least she isn't feeding pieces to our two dogs! Although she does like to share any chocolate she's eating with them which is not good. I have all but eliminated chocolate.

    She used to do 1000 piece puzzles but now gets frustrated with the 300 piece and can't really do them without my help.

    Now it's mostly the coloring books. But then she kind of zones out but it's better than some of the alternatives.

  • Andi C
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    https://a.co/d/071vmqFI

    This is a similar puzzle that my daughter in law got for her dad. This is on Amazon, also they have a series of books for Seniors with different activities, just search for Brain and Paint on Amazon. We usually just do a couple of pages at a time Also a children's bingo game with animals or figures on the cards. That is my husband's favorite, he loves to beat me!

    I'm open to any other ideas as well!

  • jgreen
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    A couple of times a week my DH and DS play ‘21’. They use M&Ms for betting. DH cannot remember the value of face cards (10) and thinks Aces are 1 point only (not 1 or 11). So sometimes he gets lucky and wins a game. He eats his winnings! (The ‘house’ pretty consistently has to ‘spot’ him more betting chips ☺️)

    I believe DH just loves the undivided attention of his son! It is heartwarming to watch those 2 play - even if it is only 15 minutes. And DH remembers to mention this during any doctor’s visits - that he is doing ‘brain games’.

  • howhale
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    Wonderful story of your son and husband enjoying their time together. Must be so heart warming to be able to watch that. Memories your son will have forever of some good times with his father in the midst of a nightmare this disease causes. You should video some sessions to have later on and include audio so you will both have his voice to hear. Wonderful story.

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ES = Early Stage
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