DH asking “What’s wrong with me?”

Just tell him his legs are weak right now and he needs to rest while they get stronger. That you need help taking care of him while that happens, so he’s where that can be done.

First…big hug.

I like the suggestions. I don't know if this is helpful, but my therapist said to me a few months before hospice, "Have you considered thinking about what you'd regret not saying to your spouse?". I spent the last couple of months distracting my DW some with stories of our meeting, telling her how much I've loved our life together, how sorry I was for being a jerk sometimes and that I'd always love her. Stuff like that. My DW responded with such happiness to much of this. Honestly, I think saying I was sorry for being being a jerk sometimes was maybe most healing. Hahaha. She really loved hearing that I loved her life together and agreed she did too.

I'm so happy I said what I said to her before she passed. It still brings me peace.

I'm a new member. This is my first comment. DH is also on hospice care, at home. He is bedridden now, has progresssed to sleeping 23 hours a day, eating and drinking very little. A former non-stop talker, he speaks in one work whispers now if at all., so understanding him is a challenge. Although his short-term memory is far gone now, and he no longer shows interest in any of his former passions like technology and photography, or even TV, he retains a surprising amount of long-term memory and awareness. I appreciate the other comments here. Some of the comments were helpful to me as I navigate caregiving (with an abundance of help from children and more). I have cognitive decline, which isn't helpful. We are both in our 90's and have been married 72 years. I am grateful for the wonderful years we had together before things started falling apart about 6 years ago. Though we were fortunate to never have Covid, life is separated into before and after Covid.