Mom is Scared dad is going to hurt her

DSDK · May 11

currently mom and dad still live together. Mom has not been officially diagnosed but we are sure she has dentists or Alzheimer’s. Neurologist appt is this week. Mom is so paranoid and untrusting of dad. Through out the day she will get scared he is going to hurt her or push her down . We try to tell her he isn’t and that she is safe and we won’t let anything happen to her. It’s getting worse though. I know you can’t reason with someone like this and typically people say to just agree with them and go along with the story. But how can we go along with something like this? She is taking a low dose of adavan that was prescribed by her PCP. Doesn’t seem to be helping. Hope neurologist will be able to prescribe something better?

Emily 123 · May 11

I would not agree with her about that, as it could exacerbate her fears.
Yes, be very clear with the neurologist about what she’s experiencing. Sometimes meds may need adjusting until they’re a good fit. Have the neurologist clarify how long it might be before a medication change will be evident, and next steps if the meds aren’t helping. Sometimes a neurologist is best at assessing and diagnosing the disease, but will leave day to day medical care in the hands of the person’s PCP. In that case, it depends on how pro-active the PCP is about managing dementia. Sometimes a geriatrician might be a better choice for overall management, and the PCP or neurologist could give you a referral.
Also consider if there are issues around taking the meds. Is she taking them if she’s distrustful - Can your dad tell? If your dad administers them is he positive she’s taken them each time?

Mom is Scared dad is going to hurt her

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