Time to move Loved One into care center

Hi Lynne,

If he's mid/late stage then telling him ahead of time might just upset him. What do you think? If he can't retain information would it be worth it to try to reason with him ahead of time? For many it's just easier to set up the room to include some familiar things (pictures, etc) and take the person without much discussion. When I moved my mom into MC from AL she had been pretty debilitated from a bad UTI. I told her that her doctor was concerned that she needed to get her strength back and so we were going to an inpatient rehab facility.

We told my mom a few weeks before the move at my brothers insistence. She packed herself. There were boxes everywhere and I had no idea what was in them (I’m not sure she knew either ). I discovered she had packed cookbooks, cupcake wrappers, 10 cardigan sweaters, clothes that didn’t fit, sheets for a King size bed…..It was a nightmare. I was sorting through boxes in the back of my car before bringing them in, but I couldn’t catch everything. A lot of unnecessary things made it to her room and she she refused to let me bring any of the nonsense stuff home. She didn’t want me to help her unpack. She was so stressed about the move. The stress was not good for her. On top of all that she was incredibly angry with me because she believed she did not belong there. I agree that setting the room up in advance or while she is out for a drive with another family member is the way to go. Presenting it as therapy or something the doctor has ordered seems like it would work well if she will buy into it. You know her best.