Doctors visit gone wrong

Sorry for the long post.

My DH is in year 5 of official diagnosis of vascular/FTD dementia. We have a wonderful doctor we see every 6 months. Or more if needed. In March he took what I call a hard dip and we went in for his 6 months appointment . A few medicine changes started taking place that seemed to make things worse. We have been seeing her ever 30 days since then with no problem with appointments. Last week was time for our appointment and she was out of state on a family emergency so we saw a new doctor in the clinic.

I have never been so upset leaving an appointment in my life, This doctor came in with an attitude of we shoudn’t be there. I tried to go over my concerns and results of last months blood test showing low vitimans b12 low vitimans d and recent changes in his behavior which has always been the norm( he even asked questions about his mediation( which is not the norm). There had been some major mixups at the pharmacy with what was called in for refills(which I quickly figured out was her mistake).

She abruptly shut us both down looking at my husband and saying you need a psychiatrist. She loudly told him he was on the highest dose of anxiety medicine prescribed(which is definitely not true) and she was a doctor and he needed a psychiatrist. I quickly explained to her that the our doctor was slowly taking him off a different mediation and should we reduce again this month. I then asked about the mixup at the pharmacy and she said you need to follow up with your pcp and a psychiatrist. I told her the mixup was with a medication prescribed by there office. Which she again said follow up with your pcp.

At this point I was ready to leave. I asked for a 30 day appointment to follow up on the reduction of medication. She flatly told me they have people waiting for months to get in go to my pcp. I actually thought we were being dismissed from the clinic. When we left the check out person stopped us and asked if we needed to c heck out. I said I don’t guess so he looked and there was an order for a 6 month appointment.

It was all I could do to hold it together on the way home. My DH husband seemed oblivious to what happened but later said I didn’t like that doctor. I am still upset 3 days later. Does my husband need a pyschiatrist?? Possibly, but I think cognitively we have missed that window. Our dementia doctor we normally see has always told us what mediations she wanted to prescribe and what medicines the pcp takes care of in a very kind respectful way. She always talks to my husband in a way he can understand and ask me questions about behaviors and my concerns. Before we leave she always tells me when she wants us to come back. Any time we have a medicine change she monitors him closely.

I feel like I should call the social worker on Monday and tell her about our experience????

Once again sorry for the long post, but I need to vent.