Putting the beloved cat to sleep

My DW is in stage 6 now and we have a black lab that she loves but IMHO I will not have her there when the time comes for him to cross the rainbow bridge.

rplourde50- I’m so sorry about your cat and your DW! You don’t mention what stage your DW is in and this might make a difference. One of my wife’s nicknames over the years has been “dog girl”. She’s late stage 5. We’ve always shared our life with dogs, many dogs, and she was passionate about them. Recently we had to take our 15 year old terrier with long term health problems to the emergency vet (middle of the night/just the two of us there), me knowing it was time to let her go. I have always been the one to be with them at their time of passing as DW was always very clear she could NOT handle being present for the euthanasia. She sat with me for the vet exam and when it came time for the actual euthanasia i expected my wife to leave the room but she did not. At that time I let her know that this was the part she would not want to see and that she might wait in the next room. She said nothing but did get up and took herself into the waiting room. Had she argued or not understood well enough what I was saying I would have let her stay. She understood when I came out that it was over and we cried briefly together (normally there would be a way more prolonged grief sharing between us). The next morning it seemed business as usual for her. But not for me, I was deep into my grief for losing Lucy and so sad not to have my DW to share the grief with as we had always done.
I wish you the best with this difficult situation. Let us know how you manage this difficult time.
💜