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Tell DH he needs to go in for his annual check up so his Medicare stays active. This is called a ‘compassionate lie’ or a ‘therapeutic fib’. As @Ed's mom said, keep a journal of all the behaviors you’ve noticed (like the hallucinations’ etc.) I am attaching an assessment tool that you can use to keep track of all the changes you are witnessing. I was surprised at all the behaviors my DH was using to compensate

such as difficulty finding words or using humor to avoid answering questions.

Do come back and let us know how the appointment goes.

Welcome. You have gotten good advice here. Some other thoughts: your husband probably will never accept the diagnosis. It will be up to you to do whatever is necessary to get a firm diagnosis and plan for the future as your husband’s caregiver. The simple cognitive tests given by a pcp are often easy to pass. Your husband will need extensive cognitive testing by a neurologist and neuropsychologist. A brain MRI and PET scan of the brain are also necessary for a diagnosis. There is also a blood test to diagnose Alzheimer’s. The neurologist should order this with the brain scans. You are ahead of the game with the journal you are keeping. His past history of brain bleeding should be enough reason to do further evaluation. I would start getting your legal documents in order with a consult with an Elder Law attorney. You will need to take over all finances. Get account names, numbers, log in and passwords. Do the same for bank accounts, brokerage accounts, computer, phone. Keep a separate notebook with all the information you are told after making calls to in home care agencies, services provided through your local Council for the Aging including adult day care, and other service providers. Buy the book The 36 Hour Day. It will help you prepare for what’s coming. Put TILE gps trackers on phone, wallets, keys. It tracks the items and person. Get a plan b in place that involves putting him on a waitlist in the event you can no longer care for him at an assisted living/memory care facility. Without this, you could wait a year or more to place him if necessary. Let us know if your husband is a veteran. We can help with the VA. Come back for support and help. The people here are extremely supportive and knowledgeable.

The VA primary care doctor will start the process for you. You will be assigned a social worker who will help with his care. He will have an entire care team. If your husband is rated for disability, there might be other benefits including medical equipment and supplies, in home care, or a stipend through Aid and Attendance for out of home placement outside of a VA nursing home and adult day care. Make sure that a geriatric psychiatrist is on his care team. The Elizabeth Dole Foundation is another excellent resource for veterans and their caregivers. Your husband does not need to have a disability rating for the organization to assist you. There is an intake form on the website. Someone will contact you.

Welcome. When you get the test results from the neuropsychologist, ask how the parts of his brain that are impacted affect his every day functioning. This was the best question I asked.