My husband resists meds, doctor recommendations. Undiagnosed and making risky decisions.

Welcome It’s hard to know how to handle things before a loved one is diagnosed and it’s easy to feel live your over stepping. After diagnosis I felt more justified in taking control. But in reality the diagnosis doesn’t really change anything. They are not suddenly less capable after diagnosis. I would do what needs to be done to keep him safe. Do things behind his back without telling him. If he finds out and gets angry, apologize, tell him you were trying to be helpful. We have a saying here, never try to reason with a person with dementia. If he shouldn’t be driving, tell him the car had to go to the shop for a factory recall (or whatever you think might work). If he is spending money for nonsense, take the credit card and let him think he lost it. If he won’t take important medicine talk to the doctor about crushing it and adding it to his food or tell him it a vitamin. Many with dementia have anosognosia and are not able to recognize their symptoms or limitations. Bringing these shortcomings up is a recipe for trouble. Good luck