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Paranoid mother
My mother has mid stage dementia and loses things constantly. She is now saying my adult children are stealing from her. She has accused enough of the family of stealing that now I’m the only one left to take care of her and my dad. I don’t know what to do. She cries cuz nobody will come visit but this is why
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Saying she doesn't have it now
Hello! I am a full te caregiver to my husband grandparents, who i absolutely adore! She has Alz and he lost both legs the end of last year, beginning of this year. I started helping towards the end of last year. Gma was referred to a neuro to see if she's a candidate for for treatment that stops the progression of Alz.…
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New Here! Mum diagnosed 6 weeks ago. Struggling with evening sundowning/looping—any advice?
Hi everyone, This is my first post. Recently, my mum was diagnosed with early-to-mid-stage Alzheimer's. She is 67. This has hit our family pretty hard, especially my dad, who has taken on the mantle of primary caregiver. I still live at home, so I am exposed to the daily realities of the condition. Lately, she has been…
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A delusion is about to be smacked by reality. What do I do?
My mother is in an assisted living and has moderate dementia. About once every month or two, she'll have a new delusion. They are quite persistent. The same story will come up for more than a week, sometimes the story will slowly shift over time. They often feature themes of rejection and loss. She recently has been…
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Reliving the past
Caring for my auntie who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s/ Dementia. She continues to relive the past and often refers to my mother and grandmother (who is deceased) as being among us! She calls out to them and talks to them as if they right there! My grandmother also passed from complications of Alzheimer’s! My mom…
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Hitting a break wall...
My loved one was a college adjunct professor with almost 40 years of teaching and research under her belt. And when COVID hit, she and many other adjunct professors were let go! That was when the super active brain suddenly stopped, like hitting a break wall. The depression followed, no desire to do any more studies or…
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New to this group
My mom diagnosed with Alzheimer's or psychosis with dementia. And Its getting worse.
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I need to vent about my grandmother and an endless cycle.....
I'm 39 and currently my 85 year old grandmother has dementia. I've been living with her for a number of years and 2 years ago she was officially diagnosed with dementia. For the past 4 months, she has been packing multiple bags daily to "go home" when she's already at the home she's lived in for the past 25 years. From…
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Do delusions end, go away, stop?
My wife has is now having delusions. Most are just odd. But now she has decided that I (a 78 year old) have married a wealthy 45 year old woman in Montana! Yes there is some humor to that, but she is intensely angry with me. My wife is in an MC facility here in AZ. I have no idea what triggered this delusion. Will this…
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I Need Help
Hello! My name is Aaliyah. I am 23. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was 2 months old. They've raised me without any help from my biological parents. In 2016, my freshmen year of highschool, I lost my grandfather to Alzheimer's. I took it insanely hard. I was one of the only ones he remembered in the end. I had…
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Phantom smells
I’m 63 and have had phantom smells for almost 2 years. My primary care doc dismissed them 1+ years ago as Covid-related. Since then I’ve begun having memory problems, definitely a personality change (much crying/depression), and difficulty problem-solving. My mom had EO and my dad some form of dementia. I had a PET scan…
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Coping When Loved One Remembers Things Wrong
Hi everyone, I wanted to share something that’s weighing on me after my recent visit with my husband. I spent a few hours with him yesterday at the nursing home, and while things went smoothly during lunch, he became anxious and started exit-seeking after. The toughest part is how his memories of these visits sometimes get…
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questions
My grandma has dementia and needs help doing things. She has been wanting moved every 5 mins to her chair and bed. She keep saying she don’t no what’s wrong and can’t see her dog in front of her everything is on repeat for her. How do I confront her or help her? Trying to not get upset but it’s hard
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Crying often, delusional
Hi, my 85 yo dad was diagnosed 2.5 years ago. Overnight, it seemed, his behaviors worsened. He cries a lot, says he wants to go home and asks where all the other people are. It’s heartbreaking to see this. I am his primary CG. My brother is flying in soon to take over for a few days. My world has shrunk so much. I want to…
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New member challenged by delusions
Hi everyone - just signed up here. 72 y.o. husband has moderate dementia, not Alzheimer’s, but due to changes from acquired brain injury from adolescent-onset hydrocephalus. He has a long history of persecutory delusions - there has often been an individual in his life that he believes intends to harm him. Those mostly…
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Scary and depressing delusions - how to respond?
My mother is in stage 4 of dementia. She's been anxious for over a year. Since she hates meds, I haven't felt it's severe enough to push for anxiety medication. I've been increasingly aware she is having delusions that cause more anxiety. I know the general advice is to accept their reality and not argue with how they are…
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How to inform your parent of major home maintenance plans
Does anyone have advice on how to inform a parent about major necessary home repairs? My siblings and I live out-of-state from my mom. While she still lives independently, she has trouble with executive function, particularly finding and hiring people to do home maintenance. Her roof is old and is in a state of total…
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I need advice - My husband with dementia keeps scissors for 'protection'
My husband has dementia and has become very focused on keeping a pair of scissors with him because he believes he may need them if an intruder comes into the house. He keeps them close at all times, carries them in his back pocket, and even sleeps with them. I have thought about taking them away while he is in the shower,…
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Concerned newcomer
Hi, I just created an account for this group,hoping to find support and helpful information. I am a loving partner to a 76-year-old woman who has been exhibiting memory lapses, delusions, and paranoia. I care deeply for her and am trying to figure out how best to help her, beginning with that first awkward, sensitive…
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My father is convinced my mom is cheating (?)
Hello I am new to the group, and an unsure how to handle this issue. My father was diagnosed over a year ago, and IDK how to label his current progression. He is isolating, and unsteady of feet, has some issues with incontinence. Has difficulty following a movie or tv program. But he is still aware of who family are. He…
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DH hallucinating that he's going to have an affair
I am going to post this, because I haven't seen anything quite like our story. My husband is in Stage 5-6 of This Crappy Disease, and he is now telling me that he would like to start a new relationship. The woman he's interested in is a neighbor whose name we don't know. He has been irritated with me because I am the…
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New… Dealing with Mom’s Hallucinations
My mom is in her 60s and her pcp says she is having brain slips and in stages of dementia. I am trying to get her seen by a neurologist and someone recently recommended a geriatric psychiatrist as an alternative for an assessment. It has been 3 months since the diagnosis and she was given an antidepressant. She is now…
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What Should I Say?
I am visiting with my parents for a few days and my Mom is very confused. She has Alzheimer’s . She often does not recognize my Dad and thinks he’s an imposter. She is scared of him. He will tell her it’s him. My brother lives with her and he says “that’s Dad.” My Mom is very confused. She says the only two people she…
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Dementia
My father that is almost 70 has recently been diagnosed with mild dementia which was shocking for me because a year ago he was diagnosed with psychosis so I assumed his case has developed to schizophrenia but turns out I was wrong. He refuses treatment and therapy in every way. I try my hardest to support him with my…
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When to correct?
Seeking soem conventional wisdom on when and how to "correct" my wife of 48 years. She is mid stages of Alzheimer's and is now most happy talking about her early years of growing up. I try not to "correct" most things but am wondering what to say when she questions who I am, how long we have lived in our home. She believes…
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Nevermind
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Help! Dealing with Agitation, Alligators and threats of dying
My mom, 80 (living at home w/my 80yr stepdad) She has been on multiple painkillers, trazadone, Valium for years (I believe clearly over medicated)...who is been diagnosed by some drs with dementia/alzheimers ...and other not...clearly is suffering from dementia and delusions. Been in and out of MC for last 2yrs. But at…
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Here's what helped us <3
Hi everyone. We recently lost my Dad after many years with Alzheimers. I wanted to share what helped us, in case it can help someone else! 1. Check to see if in home hospice care is available to your loved one - it might be available sooner than you think. The criteria for in home hospice care are kind of complicated. In…
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Recently Admitted Father to MC, and wondering if it gets easier
Hi, I'm pretty new to the discussions here. Last week, my father was taken by ambulance to the hospital due to a heart issue he had at a McDonalds at 6AM. When he was admitted to the hospital, it was obvious to the staff that he should no longer be living alone. I believed he could go on living by himself, thinking that…