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How do I get my wife to eat or take her Medicine?
She did not eat or take her medicine yesterday. I had the Dr. send a letter to us telling her to take her medicine. That did work before and now she doesn't want to take it. As far as eating, we always ate breakfast, lunch, and supper at the same time. I didn't want to change that. Then she didn't want breakfast and then…
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When is the right time to move my mom?
I know that no one can answer this question but me, and I know there probably isn’t a “right” time, but it is so hard to decide when I feel selfish and guilty and all I can do is cry when I think about it. Mom is 96 and physically very healthy. She has dementia and she is legally blind. She has lived with me for over 2…
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Mom’s (61 w/Alzheimers) Sister Died Suddenly Due to Medical Malpractice
Hi everyone! I know the title is,,,a lot. My mom is the youngest of 4, adores her older siblings. One of them unfortunately has passed two days ago, a doctor caused more damage than repair. It was completely sudden, and I am struggling with how to tell my mama. She is extremely emotional, and I’m concerned that telling her…
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Who is responsible for following up on directives after release from hospital?
It seems I have a new concern each time I visit my mother in MC. Today's question of the day is "Who is responsible to ensure the medical staff and my mom's MC facility follows the orders given for care after someone is released from a hospital?" My sister is POA for everything with mom. (I used to have POA jointly with…
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Taking Away Drivers License
Hi, I am new to this forum and hoping to connect with others. My father was diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Disorder a few years ago which has now advanced to full blown Dementia. Per his neurologist and as evidenced by repeating fender benders, we have reached the stage where he can no longer drive. This is a huge blow to…
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any advice on hospital bed mattress causing/contributing to migration and delirium
Hello community, My father is at home and started with hospice about a month and a half ago. they immediately provided a hospital bed,which looks to be almost a hundred years old- like something out of an asylum. I only recently tried it out myself and it made me feel so sad and angry that my dad has been sleeping in it…
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How do I pull my godmother out of constantly wanting to go to her childhood which no longer exists?
It's been happening slowly, but in the past month my godmoms keeps wanting to go to her childhood home which doesn't exist anymore. She's not remembering or recognizing her home of 40 years. She's been like this everyday at least 1-2 times a day...but the last 2 days it's been all day. I need suggestions on how to reassure…
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I'm new here as an ALZ caregiver for my younger sister
Hi all, I'm glad to have found this group. I guess every ALZ story is complicated, so here's mine. I raised my younger sister and brother when our parents died at a young age. We went our separate ways for 40 years, but now both sibs are seriously ill and I am once again a caregiver. My sister has been diagnosed with…
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40hz light therapy
Good morning. I recently saw an article on light therapy and helping with mood and memory. Has anyone tried a 40hz lamp? My mother has advanced Alzheimer’s, but was thinking if it helped her mood that would even be beneficial. Also any supplements that have been helpful? Thanks in advance!
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Long Distance Care for Parent with Dementia
I am struggling trying to keep up with my step-mother, who has been diagnosed with Dementia. In 2024 she went in for knee surgery and had a cardiac arrest. Since then it has been downhill. I feel like I'm living in the movie "Groundhog Day" living the same day over and over. I have three siblings who live closer to her,…
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Struggling
I posted back in April about my mother and struggling then. My Dad had also had hip surgery and everything spiraled out of control. Anyway things did calm down once my Dad recovered and was able to better manage the concept of working with my mother instead of against her Alzheimer's. However things have of course…
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Moderate Urinary Incontinence Management
Hello friends, Dad (79) is in an assisted living, not full nursing home. He really likes it there and our goal is he can stay there as long as possible. Urinary incontinence is happening more, but he can still get to the bathroom or be reminded to go and it's ok. The facility doesn't have a person who would help with that.…
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Mom needs more help than assisted living memory care
My mom was living in an assisted living memory care facility up until she broke her hip and had surgery. The hospital she was at lied and told the rehab facility that my mom has ‘a little confusion’, so the rehab facility accepted her to be transferred there. The hospital did not tell the rehab facility the severity of her…
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Decision to Move Dad into Nursing Home?
I'm brand new here and could really use some support from people who have been through something similar. I'm an only child, and my 73-year-old dad has several serious medical conditions, including end-stage renal failure and a previous stroke that left him with speech aphasia. My mom died five years ago, so I'm the only…
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Anger and depression
My father has been declining rapidly mentally. His depression hasn't been able to be controlled with meds and he keeps getting meaner. He's in denial but sometimes I think what I say actually makes it to his thinking process sometimes but is often turned around on me and it's my fault or something I did or didn't do. I'm…
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I'm new here, my first post - how can I best help my mom?
My mother is 77 years old, living independently, and diagnosed with dementia/mild cognitive impairment, along with anxiety and depression. My father passed 3 years ago, after they were married 50 years. This was followed by the passing of my brother (my mom's youngest son) at 32 just last August. She has lived in the same…
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Lack of showering
Our father has been going for extended periods (40 days at a time) without showering or changing his clothes, which has led to skin lesions. He also has incontinence issues on top of it. We are limited in our ability to intervene due to legal restrictions making these challenges difficult to address, especially when faced…
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My Mom No Longer Remembers Me ........
I live about an hour flight from my Mom and have been visiting her around every month or so. This trip she was asked who i was and one time she said "my sister," and another time "my sister-in-law." When someone told her i was her daughter she looked absolutely shocked. Yesterday we were looking at pictures and she pointed…
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What happens between dementia appointments?
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Need to vent- Struggling as a F 29 y/o caring for Dad
I don’t even know where to begin. I’m just looking to vent and feel seen as I feel most of my friends do not understand and I have no family. My dad is 84 and was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia about 4 years ago. My parents divorced when I was young and I have 1 younger sister. When dad was no longer able to live…
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Hitting a break wall...
My loved one was a college adjunct professor with almost 40 years of teaching and research under her belt. And when COVID hit, she and many other adjunct professors were let go! That was when the super active brain suddenly stopped, like hitting a break wall. The depression followed, no desire to do any more studies or…
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Sundowning and Frontal Temporal Dementia.
Nan is 93 and has had Dementia for about 14 years now. Has slowly gotten worse rather than sharp declines. We are now starting to get sundowning creeping in. Its a run of 7 days of it so far, I'm literally so exhausted i have no idea how i am functioning. She gets up about 1am thinking its 8am, and insists she needs to be…
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Mom plans to smuggle meds into AL
UGH. I'm so tired of dealing with this immaturity! My mom has been having lots of back pain, but she refuses any sort of medical help for it, aside from Tylenol. As is common with AL, medications, including OTC, are not allowed in her room and must be dispensed by the staff. She knows this, she understands this, and she…
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Conservatorship Process
Father is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and is prone to shopping sprees, scams, and donating money, but doesn’t pay his taxes, bills, and maxes out credit cards. He’s in debt $500k, but denies any problem with his actions or Alzheimer’s diagnosis from his neurologist. Would like first hand experience with establishing a…
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After 10 long years mom has died, now what?
It was 10 years ago that I realized my mother's forgetfulness was more than just normal aging. The reality hit me like a ton of bricks, and nobody else in the immediate family wanted to face it or do any future planning. I had a general dread of what the future could hold but maintained hope that we could still find a way…
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I need to vent about my grandmother and an endless cycle.....
I'm 39 and currently my 85 year old grandmother has dementia. I've been living with her for a number of years and 2 years ago she was officially diagnosed with dementia. For the past 4 months, she has been packing multiple bags daily to "go home" when she's already at the home she's lived in for the past 25 years. From…
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Advice Needed After Moving My YOA Mom from AL to MC
I posted here a while back when my mom was first diagnosed with ALZ and I was trying to move her from FL to GA to be closer to me. She’s 65, I’m 30, and I’ve been her POA for about a year. She’s divorced, so this has all been pretty overwhelming at times. After a really tough few months, my sister and I were able to get…
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Thoughts on taking Mom for hometown visit?
My mom moved into AL near me, 2.5 hours away from her house, in April. She has adjusted fairly well, only occasionally talking about the possibility of someday moving back to her house, but for the most part, accepting of her current situation (even if somewhat grudgingly). She was notified recently that my dad's headstone…