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Clarity VS deep sleep or unresponsiveness
My 91 year old mother has vascular dementia and shows a pattern of two days of clarity and sleeps for 3 days nonstop and back at clarity again. This has been a pattern since Jan 2025. She was diagnosed in 2020 and lives in a Care Center Facility. Is any of your love ones with vascular dementia going through this cycle?
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My Mom Finally Got An Official Diagnosis
So after almost three months, my mom has officially been diagnoised with major cognitive disorder, aka dementia by a geriactic care provider. According to her, silent strokes from a while back (which affected her brain) and my mom's unresolved grief with my Dad were major contributing factors. It has been recommended that…
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Rapid Progression
My mom is 91 and has had early onset of dementia for the last couple of years. She recently got a UTI and has since then gone into a place that I do not even know how to cope deal with or even have a conversation with her. I have her at a skilled nursing while I figure out how I can either a bring her back home with me or…
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Help and insight
Hi. I apologize if this seems off or redundant, I’m new to a lot of this. My grandfather has Alzheimer’s. It’s pretty bad. My mom lives with him to help and I’m over as much as I can. But lately he’s aggressive and wants to go home. Stating this is not his home. It’s definitely in the sundowners range because it’s usually…
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Mom has auditory hallucinations need help
My 96 year old mom has alzheimers and recently has been having auditory hallucinations - she hears the same part of a song over and over ( i can't id the song). this started about 6 weeks ago for 1 day, then again a month later the 14 days later and then 4 days later. it really upsets her. she thinks its coming from a…
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Mom is afraid to stay alone with Dad
Hi, my Dad has dementia. I think he's in the middle stages (gets angry, hallucinates, thinks the bank is stealing from him). Couple of days he had an episode and woke up at 3:30 a.m. Left the house and told my mom if she doesn't move, he will hit her. Thank God my aunt was there and went after him. He returned but was…
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Dealing with Medication Management
Hey Y'all! I'm a 27-year-old caregiver for my grandfather with VD, while also working full-time. He is probably mid-stage by now. Medication management has been difficult to deal with, to say the least. He is very resistant to change and likes to feel in control of things. He's been this way all his life. He's been an…
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Decompressing after a tough visit
I guess all we can do is take a deep breath and exhale, right? I visited my mom yesterday. She is in Memory Care. I put my game face on. I went through the locked doors she now lives behind. I walk through the community to my mom's apartment, and as I do I smile and wave at other residents I have come to know and say their…
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Rehab versus hospice
My 91 year old Mom is somewhere between late stage 5 and early stage 6. She was fairly stable for the past year, but I (and her caregivers in memory care) saw a precipitous decline over the past couple of months. She has completely lost her appetite and is eating very little. Even her former favorite sweets have no appeal.…
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Seeking Advice: Managing Toilets with Dementia Behaviors
My father has late-stage dementia and is exhibiting challenging behaviors that are making it difficult to maintain our home. He’s been pouring food down the toilets, which has caused clogs and damage. He also removed the bolts from one toilet, breaking the wax seal, and it’s now unusable. He’s fixated on guarding the…
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CBD to help manage symptoms
Any one have experience with CBD to help manage anxiety and agitation in your loved ones?
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New obsessive behavior
My 94 yr old mom with dementia has always enjoyed listening to music, especially the music of her youth. She sings along often, remembering the lyrics. I have searched for and found about 25 CDs of very old music that she enjoys. In the last couple of months, she has started clapping with the music instead of singing. It…
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traveling with spouse with dementia- beginning stages
Husband has posterior cortical atrophy so forgets things easily, has no peripheral vision. But we love to travel. Considering the Caribbean to escape MN winter. We love to walk together. Plan to stay in one place from approx march 3-10. any ideas? thanks. Lois
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"Incident" in MC, what to do?
I was told there was an incident involving my mother in memory care. Nobody at her facility contacted me about it. I heard it from one of her friends who called me to inquire about it, and she said she was told from my sister who has POA. I called the Director of Nursing. In her words she said "Yes, there was an incident…
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Dementia Family Dog Workshop Webinar
I started following this group that’s based in Scotland because my wife who is in the early stage of Alzheimer’s expressed interest in getting a service dog. This free webinar is an “educational workshop to guide families affected by dementia who have, or would like to get, their own pet dog”
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My Mom Keeps Misplacing Things & Thinking My Late Dad Is Still Alive
My mom has a UTI (urinary tract infection) that is causing dementia symptoms. For the past month and a half, she's been misplacing things and then blaming it on my late Dad and insisting he is alive and messing with her. He's been dead for more than a decade, but she never came to terms with it. She was taking meds for the…
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Young Adult Daughter of Dad with Dementia
Hi everyone! I'm 22, just came home from graduating college and sadly my Dad was recently diagnosed with Dementia after 2 years of agitation, aggression, and eventually psychosis symptoms. With the help of medication, we are so grateful to now get glimpses of the phenomenal superhero of a man/dad he was for me all my life.…
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A Reluctant Caregiver for Both My Parents for Nine Years
Hello friends here, Yes, I had help when I took care of both my elderly invalid parents, but it still was difficult. For those of you who don't know me, my mother progressed into severe dementia and could no longer do anything for herself. My stepdad, George, was legally blind, and eventually progressed into heart failure…
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My Mom has Dementia and now hates my Father
Hello! I'm new here. My Mom has dementia and directs all her anger at my father. He is a wonderful, patient man that takes care of her everyday (we are currently trying to get her into assisted living). She calls me everyday bashing him about how he takes all her clothes, pushes her around and throws out all her important…
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Showering /refusing/thinking they have
I am a caregiver ,been one for 5 years. I have not ever came across anyone with this type of situation before. My client refuses to shower. She states that she already has taken one either morning or night but has not. Family has cameras up that proves she does not shower. I have used many tactics as to we can go to dinner…
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How often do you visit your LO in Memory Care?
I am sure there is no routine or common visiting schedule. Someone recently asked me how often I visit my mom, and I told them about once a week. In reality, it is less than that. I guess I thought if I told them the honest truth, I would sound like a horrible person. Truth be told, I could visit my mom every single day…
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New To Forum. Mom has UTI that has progressed dementia symptoms
Hi all. I'm 34 & I've been my mom's primary caregiver since I was 22. For the past decade, she's had some memory problems (misplacing things, forgetting what day it is, forgetting how to navigate some driving routes, forgetting there's a boiling pan on the stove). Yet this was always managable with my help until recently.…
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no meds
My DW was diagnosed with dementia of the altzheimer type frontal lobe complicated by depression. The main concern that I have is I do not know how to help her take her meds. When I offer she either becomrs very agitated with the final statement that she is stupid or says she will. She was given 24 amocycilin by a dentist a…
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I wrote this essay to help others after losing my father to a long battle with Alzheimer's disease.
After losing my father to a long battle with Alzheimer's, I wrote this essay to give a glimpse into this horrific disease, draw attention to the red flags and signs (there are many people at this very moment who have a family member with dementia and still do not realize it), and especially to help people navigate through…
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Coping with changing behaviors
My mom has alzheimers and has suddenly become agitated when viewing images of herself or others in a mirror. She is afraid that she's being watched by strangers (images in mirror) or people on tv. She also hides money, thinking others are coming to steal it. She also has no idea whether it's daytime or night. I'm at a loss…
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Sandwich generation - having a baby while caregiving for dementia
Hi everyone, I have posted a few times here before and this forum has been so helpful. My dad (77, mid stage 5) moved to memory care in September. He has adjusted really well. He doesn't remember home or ask to leave, he is always engaged in activities when I visit, the staff love him, and I think he has made some friends…
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Need some advice
My grandfather (77) has Alzimers and early stage dementia. He has been having issues with his memory and I am trying my best to help him. But I'm having trouble getting through to him. For context, I along with my parents, are currently living with my grandfather. We try to keep the house clean, provide meals and assist…
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Diagnosis for dementia?
My mother was recently discharged from the hospital after having an episode of some sort and falling. She stayed in the hospital for 2 weeks and she was experiencing dementia symptoms pretty bad. Her memory has been fading gradually over the past 6 years or so. The doctors were worried about it and tried to get an MRI but…
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Mom recently diagnosed, Dad in hospice, preparing for dad's passing
Hello, I just joined this forum, and am looking for suggestions. My elderly parents (93 and 91) are having difficulties. I am their primary caregiver. Dad will pass soon (home hospice), my folks are living in Senior Independent Living apartment together. We have not communicated the DEMENTIA diagnosis to my mother yet, and…
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Tiempo disponible
Soy la unica a cargo del cuidado de mi papa. Estoy cansada, agotada y de muy mal humor. La enfermedad de mi papa se llevo mi vida social, y los pocos amigos que tenia. El vive conmigo y lo cuido de dia y de noche. Se que no soy la unica pasando por esto. Que hacen para tener paciencia?