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Questions for Assisted Living
Our father was recently diagnosed with LBD. Right now, he is living independently with home healthcare and family support. The family would like to start looking for possible assisted living facilities. What are some important questions we should be asking when touring these places? We've found checklists online, but I…
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dementia engagement services
As a caregiver of a parent with vascular dementia, I'm looking to offer engaging outings for families of people with dementia. This could be morning coffee or lunch with some kind of light physical activity or stimulating interaction. My hope is to provide individuals with dementia a routine that inspires, promotes…
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Husband has Dementia
My first husband of 45 years died of cancer in the end I was his caregiver. We had a business so I ended up running it because he was so sick. Then sold it to take care of him full time. My husband died and I felt my.life was over then I met a divorced man . We enjoyed each other so much had fun traveling the usa in a RV…
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Should confabulation be addressed or ignored?
Background: My 58 y.o. alcoholic wife had a psychotic episode in 2016 after quitting drinking. She was hospitalized with a diagnosis of Delirium tremens but I believe she suffered/suffers from Wernicke Korsakoff Syndrome. Over the past seven years she has exhibited symptoms of dementia which I have managed through…
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If I Had One Wish…
…it would be that all medical professionals dealing with caregiver’s listen to them and treat them with as much care and respect as was perhaps taught to them in medical school. I am my husband’s caregiver. His primary care doc referred us to a home health agency. After a brief period of service provision - I requested a…
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July 22, 2023
I never knew when the day would come that I would lose my grandmother, but sadly it has been barely a week since she had passed. I joined this community around 5 days before her passing, but had hoped we’d have at minimum, 2 weeks left with her, but timing was different than we had imagined. in my other post, I had…
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Conflicted In Feelings
I love my mom dearly. I find it an honor to take care of her as she moves into the mid-stages of Vascular Dementia. But lately, when her mood shifts, and she is very much out of character I find myself screaming inside "Who are you!" In those moments I try to shift the mood and put on light music - she was a classical…
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Prevention and Slowing of Dementia
Hello everybody, I'm new to this forum and I've been reading a lot of posts over the past few days. I've been seeing a lot of people who have unfortunately been recently diagnosed with Dementia or Mild Cognitive Impairment and are unsure of what steps they can take to reduce their risk or slow progression of disease.…
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How to handle confusions
I'm new to this site. I could really use some advice. My father has dementia and living in nursing home. He is convinced that he was/is in WWII. He never served in the military. He keeps asking when his uniforms are going to come showing his new rank. I don't know what to say to him. I keep telling him they are out of his…
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Depression as my Moms Alzheimers progresses
Hey everyone, I am new here and was looking for advice on how to deal with what feels like constant grieving. Shortly after covid hit, my mom was diagnosed with PCA, a type of dementia that affects vision. After her diagnoses, things have progressed really fast and I have been going through feelings of depression, anxiety…
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Need advice! Mom recently moved to MC and hates it!
Hello! I'm looking for some help. My 85 yr old mother with dementia moved into MC after after a 2 week stay in the Geripsych unit at our local hospital. She was taken there very much against her will by brother while I was out of the country. She has macular degeneration very bad and has very poor vision. This poor vision…
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From Vox: A new era for Alzheimer’s treatment begins
Another perspective on Leqembi.
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Coping with hospice
Hello everyone, I’m new to this community. I (26 years old) have been a caretaker for my 86 year old grandmother for 6 years since her diagnosis was made (aphasia dementia). She has recently been declining, and just this evening my family had made the decision to begin hospice care for her. It was an emotional decision,…
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Figuring out double rent
Hi there! Has anyone experienced this and how did you handle it? My In-laws currently rent. My Mother in Law is considering downsizing to an independent living apartment at a community that also has assisted and memory care available. My Father in Law has dementia and we suspect in less than a year he'll need memory care.…
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Getting mom with dementia to a doctor; what other options might we have?
My 69-year old mom has been increasingly showing signs of dementia for the last decade. She never saw a doctor for this (did not even discuss it with her PCP), until the situation exploded: about 18 months ago, she was basically having psychotic episodes in the middle of the night. It got so bad, she ended up in the…
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Mother with early-onset dementia - advice?
This is my first time posting here, and I'm looking for some advice. My 70-year-old mother has early-onset dementia. She is extremely independent - she lives alone in an apartment, still works outside of the house, spends much of her time alone. She has had symptoms of memory loss, speech disturbance, and TIA. She's had a…
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Aggressive and abusive behavior
My step-dad has been showing signs for years but has not been diagnosed since he won't go to a doctor. This past year, he has become very aggressive with me like punching and slamming me into doors. I try to show empathy but It seems to make it worse. The only recourse is to stay away from him but he will seek me out to…
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How to cope with loss of grandmother.
My 93 yr old grandmother passed away on 6/10/23. She lived with us for around 7yrs and was in hospice care for 6 months before she was moved into a facility right after Easter. Her dementia had gotten worse and she needed 24hr care, which we couldnt provide any longer. I know what we had to do what was in her best interest…
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Feeling Guilty
Where do i begin. For the past few years, my husband And i were having problem., financial, personal etc. I was suspecting drug abuse also. eventually i pusued divorce. He moved out but refused to get a job, and support himself in any meaningful way. I continued to support him to the best of my abilities, racking up tons…
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Moving Mom to Memory Care
I have been told I need to move my Mom from AL to MC because she has started wondering the halls at night. I understand why she has to move but the question is how to handle it. The place I am moving her to, suggests to take her out for the day and when I bring her back, bring her to the new place and tell her this is…
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Is visiting her daughter a good idea?
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Dealing with paranoid delusions?
It's been several years since I've been on this forum (my dad who had Alz passed away in 2018), but now I'm back again since my brother-in-laws mother has dementia and it's been extremely difficult to handle. My sister and her husband have been working on getting her meds on track, but until then we need some advice on her…
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Caregiver with a Mother that has just been diagnosed with Dementia.
Pleasure to meet everyone and I'm very happy to find this group. My mother who is 78, has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer's with a potential pathway of Dementia. Though this did not come as somewhat shock to myself and my siblings, we primarily found out after she was evicted from her apartment, her spouse left her…
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my father with dementia is still CEO of his company; looking for advice
Hi, I have a tricky situation and feeling lost about what to do. My father founded a company and he has been running it for over 20 yeas. He has developed dementia over the past few years. As of now, his symptoms are: Consistently doesn’t know where he is (such as which town or state or even if he is in his own home) He…
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Early dementia in my mother living with us affecting me, my husband and son
Hi everyone, I am struggling to say the least. It is thought my mom has dementia, specifically behavioral variant FTD. It has been a whirlwind because she moved in with us and we didn't know she had this and figured it out along the way. She has annoying behaviors and even though my son and husband know it, they get…
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Helping Dad
So I’m just getting home from driving 45 minutes each way to diffuse an argument between my parents. Mom has dementia and dad is doing his best, but loses patience and gets upset with her when she gets confused. This leads to fighting, but then she can’t convey why they’re arguing she just knows she’s upset. I’m unable to…
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Managing care long-distance
I could use some advice. My mom, who is 81 years old, is in stage 4, borderline stage 5. She still lives at home in MA with my dad, also 81. I live in VA and manage all of their finances, medical, house related items, etc. I fly home every 4-6 weeks for doctor appointments, house cleaning, hair cuts, laundry, etc. since my…
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Fear in stage 7
My husband is the last stages of AD. In the last week he seems to have developed fear of I guess falling, but can’t be sure. If I push his wheelchair through a doorway he grabs both door jambs and won’t let go. Same if I move him from one place to another- he will grab on and not let go. It took two care personnel to get…
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Mom early/quickly progressing dementia
Hello everyone. I hope I can concisely explain what’s going on and get some practical advice. My mom does not have a diagnosis. My mom and dad are 89 and 86, respectively, and I have spent the last 3.5 years trying to get them moved to a small house already on my property 3 hours from where they have been living. The move…