I made the decision & I am taking a leap of faith

Elshack

Sending support and prayers your way. Plan A is to bring him home and I know you have a Plan B if Plan A does not work out. Keep us posted. Sending virtual (((hugs))).

JJ401

Everyone makes decisions based on their unique set of circumstances. I hope the journey home went well and wish that the coming days do so too.

LadyTexan

Thank you everyone. 

I was on the road about 7 hours yesterday. My sister was a tremendous help. She did most of the driving so that I could decompress on the way there and focus on DH on the way home.

DH was dirty and unkempt when he was discharged. The clothes he was wearing were dirty and the inventory of clothes I sent there with DH were damp and some things were missing. DH had other people's belongings mixed in with his. I understand this happens. I recall reading on this forum that residents "borrow" things from other residents. I am grateful to have been prepared for that minor hiccup.

When we got home, I showered him, brushed his teeth and got him in clean clothes. He slept all through the might and is very well rested.

DH is happy to be home and I am happy he is here. I suppose this is the "honeymoon" phase. I understand the journey forward will be difficult. I am feeling stronger and am glad to have a plan B if this doesn't work out.

I am so grateful for all of you. I understand your concerns. I know I am taking a risk. Thank you for your continued support.

God bless you all.

White Crane

Dear Lady Texan, my prayers are with you.

Beachfan

Best wishes going forward.  I am praying for you and DH and a safe, successful outcome.  You have clearly put your heart and soul into caring for your DH under the worst conditions.  Hopefully, this is the beginning of a brighter future.

Last Dance

Your heart led you to your husband in marriage, and now its leading you to take care of him, and you are doing a good job, maybe things will stay good and maybe they wouldn't but you are giving it your best and that's all anyone can do. Live for today because none of us know what tomorrow will bring. God's Blessings and his Peace be with you. Richard

abc123

Thank you for letting us know you two are home safe. We are here for you!

Ed1937

You must be completely worn out. Thank God he is sleeping a lot. Maybe you'll be able to take advantage of that, and get some rest yourself.

Bhopper

I hope everything holds together ! Especially you during the new transition I will only repeat what everyone tells me if you go down its going to be difficult. Not preaching only concerned & hoping for the very best to both of you.

BH

HSW

Lady Texan,  I have accepted risk as well. I am with my DH at all times except for when he is sleeping in his room. Medication has moderated his behavior and I work hard at making him feel safe, comfortable and included.

Lorita

Good news.

banpaeng

Best wishes for Ms Lady Texan.

LadyTexan

DH has a noticeable decline since being discharged from the hospital. From what I have read here, that is not unusual. DH has gotten lost in the house a couple of times. He is very sleepy which may be attributable to the change in his meds. 

This morning we were playing with the dog and DH was giggling. It was music to my ears.

Next week DH has a follow-up with the PCP and his geri-psychiatrist.

I am taking care of myself. My self care includes time on the back porch watching and listening to the wild birds, playing with my dog and reading a book for pleasure. I also made a big picture of cucumber water which makes me feel especially pampered. The big bonus is that I am staying hydrated.

Best wishes to all of you and your loved ones. Happy Father's Day to all you dads out there.

Stuck in the middle

Thank you, Lady Texan.  Best wishes to you.

ladyzetta

Lady T,

That is good news and please continue to take good care of yourself. That cucumber water sounded so good I looked it up and I am going to make me some. It sounds real good. Hugs Zetta  

Ed1937

That is great news! I'm super happy for you.

ButterflyWings

LT - All the best to you. I have been dealing with some dementia drama here the last few days and a major stepdown with DH so, did not see your news until today. Long story involving lockouts (me, in the garage/him barricading door), attempted 'carjacking' by DH, and a wandering episode (complete with police rescue). I will post more when I can, but haven't been online much, dealing with all that excitement.

Thank you for keeping us posted. What M1 and others said: wishing you only the best and supporting you in whatever you feel is best for your situation at any given moment. You are strong, wise, and have lots of good resources. Sending positive energy and best wishes for you to be safe physically, and as safe mentally and emotionally as any of us can be when caring for a LO with the unpredictability of dementia.

Jo C.

Hello LT, that was one long ride to pick up your DH; so glad the trip went okay and that all has been calm.   Your back porch and the cucumber water sounds very peaceful.    It may take a couple of weeks for your husband to re-orient himself to home; it really must be a relief to know he is okay and all is well and to hear his laughter.

Let us know how you are; and sending wishes for a really good day with unexpected blessings to find you.

J.