My husband is finally free from suffering

Doityourselfer

My 63 yr old husband passed away peacefully this morning at 12:15am.  I am so grateful I was able to keep him home under the care of hospice.  He was bedridden since December 5.  It was so very difficult to see him fade away day by day.  My younger son is extremely upset.  My older son is handling it well.  

My husband used to collect owl figurines. This morning at 2:30 my younger son and I heard a barred owl hooting loudly in the darkness.  So comforting to us.

I'm also grateful for everything I've learned from this website.  There is more information here than what any doctor has told me.

Thank you all for your support.  I wish you all the best in your journeys.

Lorita

I'm so very sorry for your loss.  Please accept my condolences.  Perhaps the owl hooting shortly after he passed away was his way of letting you know that all was well and he was free of this terrible disease.  Take care of yourself.

DrinaJGB

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I truly believe the owl was your messenger of peace and love.

Yorklady53

I’m so very sorry for your loss.

M1

Peace to you DIY, and your family.

Mint

I’m so sorry for your family’s loss.

sandwichone123

Good morning Doityourselfer, I am with you in sorrow and hope you are able to find peace in the new year. It can be difficult to balance the sense of loss with the sense that suffering is over, and I hope for you and your family that you find peace. I think the owl is a good omen.

Jeff86

Heartfelt condolences on your DH’s passing.   May you find peace and comfort in the weeks and months ahead.

Beachfan

I am sorry, Doityourselfer.  I have been thinking about you; now I will pray for all of you.  You have traveled a long, sad road and I so admire your having kept him at home.  A peaceful passing is something all of would wish for. 

The owl!!! Surely a sign.  My mom sends me a cardinal every so often.  Stay strong and be at peace.  

ladyzetta

Dear Doityourselfer,  I am so sorry for your loss, please feel comfort in the sound of the owl. When my DH left this world 4 years ago, I went out on the back porch, and it was night and there was a star that was blinking at me. I knew it was my DH winking at me like he always did. I still look for that star and I usually see it. Hugs to You, Zetta

June45

Doityourselfer, I remember your eagle and now you have the comfort of the owl.  This must be a time of relief yet profound sadness that so much was taken from you both. Blessings to you and your family as you start a new journey.

jfkoc

The owl....beautifully haunting. 

Please accept my condolences sent to you and your boys. 

Please take care and listen to your needs now.

60 falcon

I'm really sorry to hear of your loss but glad that he's not suffering anymore.  You should be so proud of yourself for all that you've done for him.  I'm wishing you and your sons peace as you go forward.  An owl, what a neat way for your husband to contact you!

Joydean

So sorry for your loss but glad your husband is no longer suffering. I pray for peace and comfort for you and your family. God bless you and your family.

JoseyWales

I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. It's been a long time losing him, and the ending must seem surreal right now. I love the message from the owl, thank you for sharing that.

May you and your sons find peace in the days ahead.

Buggsroo

I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. The sound of the owl was a wonderful parting gift, your husband has left this disease behind. I am glad you had that special gift. My condolences.

Lills

My deepest sympathies to you and your sons in this final loss.  It's been a long journey and you've gone the distance with your care and love for your DH.  May you find peace and comfort in the days ahead.   Love the sign from the owl.  (When my dad died, a huge bald eagle circled low, past the large windows during his funeral.  Everyone saw it and I took it as a goodbye from my dad.)

CStrope

I am so sorry for your loss.  You have come to the final chapter in the book we are all writing.  I have only been on the sight for about a year, so I'm not as familiar with your story, but we all travel a similar path.  My DH is 67, was diagnosed a little over a year ago, but had symptoms for several years prior.  I hope that you are able to get through this time, and move on to starting your next book.

Stuck in the middle

Sorry, Doityourselfer.  Safe travels

Battlebuddy

So sorry for your loss, and I’m sorry it is happening so close to Christmas. I think it makes it even harder. I hope you get some rest in the weeks ahead and the fog starts to lift. You will be in my prayers.

ButterflyWings

Dear DIY - you have my sincere condolences and best wishes for you and your sons. What a beautiful gift you gave your beloved husband, to be able to care for him at home as you planned. And that owl! Surely a message that he is free. You provided safe passage.

I have been thinking about the unique sequence of numbers in today's date and feeling that is is momentous (122221). Yes, it is the end of an era for you -- as well as a new beginning. Take all the time you need. We are here for you.

David J

I am very sorry for your loss. You have been a good caregiver as well as being helpful and comforting on this forum. Be well, and let us know how you are doing.

Quilting brings calm

I’m sorry for your loss.

Marie58

I'm  so sorry for your loss.  May God grant you peace, comfort and strength in the days and weeks ahead.

abc123

I am very sorry for the loss of your husband. You and your sons are in my thoughts & prayers. Please let us know how you are all doing. I'm so sorry.

Pat6177

My sincere condolences. May you find peace going forward. Please let us know how it goes in Stage 8. Take care.

LadyTexan

Dear DIY'r. I am sincerely sorry for your loss. I am grateful his passing was peaceful and that you were comforted by the hooting owl.

May God comfort you and your boys. May He bring you all peace and give you the strength you need.

You have been an amazing caregiver. Please take time to rest and heal.

God bless you.

-LT

White Crane

I’m so sorry for your loss. Glad you were able to keep him at home. Sending prayers.

Ed1937

I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm glad his passing was peaceful.

Doityourselfer wrote:

My husband used to collect owl figurines. This morning at 2:30 my younger son and I heard a barred owl hooting loudly in the darkness.  So comforting to us.

What a great thing to happen! It's easy to understand how that would be comforting.

Last Dance

I am so sorry for your lose. May every owl you see or hear give you strength to face the heart ache you feel. God's Blessings to you and your sons Richard

Davegrant

I am sorry for your loss.