My husband is finally free from suffering

French

Doityourself, you impressed me this year. My condolences and a remote hug.

Jo C.

I send my heartfelt sympathies to you at the loss of your dearly beloved husband.   It is good that he was able to pass peacefully with his family by his side. May you and your family now find peace and solace in the knowledge of how beautifully you provided care and stayed loyal to your plan to the end. 

When you have time, and if you wish to do so, do let us know how you are, we will be thinking of you.

J.

Lynne D

I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you both peace.

Grandx7

May God bless you and your family in this difficult time. I pray for healing for all of you going forward.

amicrazytoo

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my DH earlier this month and it has been a double edged sword. Blessing and heartache. My prayers are with you.

Doityourselfer

Thank you everyone for your kind words.

December was a very tough month.  It has been 15 days since my husband passed (12-22-21).  He passed as I was sleeping in the twin bed next to him and my younger son slept on the floor in a sleeping bag.  My son placed his Apple watch on my husband's wrist earlier in the day and his last heartrate was as 12:09 a.m.  I woke at 12:36 a.m. and didn't hear him breathing.

My husband was cremated and most of his ashes will be scattered in the Adirondacks and at Old Orchard Beach, Maine.  I'll keep a beautiful small keepsake urn.  We'll have a memorial gathering for family in the Spring.

I have so much support from family and friends that it can be overwhelming, and I look forward to my quiet, alone time.  My husband was the third of eight children.  All but two of his siblings were able to see him before he passed.  I'm so very grateful for those visits.

My younger son is doing much better.  He's back to traveling with work, working out and hiking (weather permitting).  I'm looking forward to hiking with him when the weather improves.

My older son moved to the Boston area a year and a half ago (2 1/2 hours away).  I visited him last Thursday to see his apartment for the first time.  We had a wonderful lunch and took a long walk through the Boston Public Garden and surrounding area.  I'm looking forward to attending a couple of Red Sox games.

It's an odd feeling to have so much free time right now.  I've been in a cleaning/organizing mode.  Donated new/unopened disposable briefs to a senior citizen center, donated unneeded furniture and odds and ends to Habitat for Humanity and the Salvation Army.   Painted the master bedroom and ordered new carpet for that room.  

I miss my husband.  While I was grocery shopping one day a song that reminded me of him came on and brought me to tears.  I've been on auto-pilot taking care of him for the past 5 very, very difficult years that I didn't really think of how much I'd miss him.  For the most part, I'm doing well and taking care of myself.

I wish you all the best in this new year.  Caregiving is one challenging job.

Lynne D

I am deeply sorry for your loss.

Shevie

DYI, my heart goes out to you and your family. May you all be blessed with peace and comfort each and everyday. Hugs.

VRAAB

Doityourselfer, I am so, so sorry for your loss.  63 yrs. Is too young.  My DH is also 63 and in the later, late stage of this horrible disease.  He is also at home and in hospice.  I don’t know how you did it.  It is getting harder for me emotionally to watch DH fade away and don’t know if I can keep him at home till the end before I have a breakdown.  My prayers are with you and your family. 

DreamerLost

arizonadianne

I am so sorry for your family’s loss. I can’t imagine what you are feeling right now. Thank you for sharing with us. I loved hearing about your owl. Sending love!

toolbeltexpert

Dear Doityourself I am sorry for your loss. Grateful for the signs you received. And I am thankful you were able to care for your DH. May God continue to carry you.