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RanchersWife

Residual grief hasn’t lessened the grief I’m feeling during these final days. It was just 4 years of grief. Dang it! She hasn’t eaten in 8 days.

Mint

So very sorry.

mommyandme (m&m)

Oh soooo difficult. I’m very sorry!

Iamrjb

I logged on to post the same thing. My dad has been sleeping for 6 days now. Waiting for the inevitable end is awful.

May flowers

I am so sorry, RanchersWife.

jfkoc

thinking of you.....

ninalu

RanchersWife, 
Sending you wishes of comfort during this difficult period.

ButterflyWings

(((RanchersWife))) - hugs to you and your family at this tough time. Wishing for comfort and rest for your dear MIL. She knows she is greatly loved.

abc123

You are providing her safe passage, words from M1 that truly helped me. You are in my thoughts and prayers daily.

Love&Light

I'm so sorry RanchersWife. You are right, the residual grief doesn't prepare one for the rawness in the inevitable passing of your LO. I am sending warm and loving thoughts your way.

toolbeltexpert

Rancherswife sorry to hear, I'll continue to keep you in my prayers.

RanchersWife

My 16 year old son is sitting with her till 11 pm. He wants to. I won’t tell him no. 

Thank you for the kind words. 

RanchersWife

I’m sorry Lamrjb. I can honestly say I know how you are feeling. I hope you have good family and a wonderful pastor like we do.

Unionhill57

Lambjr I understand your pain— my thoughts and prayers are with you. My mom hasn’t eaten in a week. Three weeks ago she was walking around, talking, etc. Now we’re planning for hospice at home. She’d been very unhappy to know that she’s been in the hospital for over two weeks. I know it’s selfish but I don’t want her to die— but I don’t want her to be in pain. Doctors say she can hear us so I talk to her and rub her shoulder and play the cooking shows she likes. My parents have been married over 51 years— I don’t know what my dad will do.

​fesk

My heart goes out to all of you in this situation. And I'm sorry to hear the grief hasn't been lessened RanchersWife. I will keep you all in my thoughts.

RanchersWife

It’s 2am almost two weeks since my loved one broke her femur. Her breathing is very shallow. She hasn’t swallowed water in days. Hasn’t eaten since the 12th. Hospice thinks it will be tonight but they thought it would be last night. We’ve been doing bedside 24/7 comfort care for 10 days. I’m tired.

Joydean

I’m so sorry, I know this is so hard for you and your family. You do have a wonderful family, what a blessing that is for you. Glad to know you do have a good pastor. God is with you and your family. What great boys you have! Prayers for you all! 

SusanB-dil

Thoughts and prayers - ((hug))    and peace.    This is so not easy. none of it.

M1

Thinking of you RW.

jfkoc

me too...........

MN Chickadee

She is in good hands and it sounds like it will happen peacefully any minute now. As I just posted to Numb on another post, these last hours are such agony. The release is coming. You are strong, you will get over the finish line. Thinking of you.

RanchersWife

A friend said she’s working out her salvation so she can go straight to Heaven. I think she’s working out mine. I’ll miss her. I’m proud of her. I’m proud of my husband and myself. We weren’t perfect but we tried our best. Patience came hard the last few months. My mother raised me but my mother-in-law made me an adult through her wisdom, friendship and finally with her Alzheimer’s. 

We’ve elected to not turn her again because she’s breathing peacefully and the last turn was very traumatic. We nearly lost her when her tongue fell back in her throat. She comfortable now. 

dayn2nite2

Yes, leave her be, God will take care.  There is a grief we experience during this disease and even when you think you have none left at the end, there is still grief after our LO has departed this world.

My only relief comes from knowing that my mother was well taken care of and did not suffer in death and she is free of the vessel she traveled this world in.

May your MIL have a peaceful passing.

Jo C.

Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you and sending warmest of thoughts your way.

J.

LicketyGlitz

I 'm on the other side of your journey, Rancherswife and Iam - this was the hardest part and in some ways the most amazing part in our journey. I can't really explain it, even to myself but I'm wishing peace for you and your dementia people, and those who love and support you both as you cross this final bridge.

May flowers

Praying for peace and comfort for all of you in her final days. It sounds like you and your whole family has done a wonderful job making her feel comfortable and loved.

harshedbuzz

Thinking of your dear MIL and family RanchersWife

​fesk

Thinking of you.

Fairyland

Peace to her and your family.

mommyandme (m&m)

My thoughts are with you and yours.  This part of life (death) can be an amazing experience.  Your MIL loved you so much, she’s sharing it with you.  It may be hard to see when face to face with the passing of your loved one, yet I do hope you can feel the peace, comfort and love surrounding you.  

She’s so blessed to have you by her side. 

RanchersWife

Thank you to all of you. There are too many of you guys to name.

We are still here at her bedside. I expected her to pass last night. Hospice expected it 3 nights ago. I don’t expect it to be tonight. I can’t say why. I’m taking the 11:30pm to2 am shift. 

I’m tired.