My dear wife passed at 10:05 this morning

Davegrant

Hoot: Sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your story as it will help prepare others for their journey.

AnnMB

Hoot, I am sorry to hear about your wife's passing. You and your family are in my thoughts at this time.

Like you, I wouldn't want my DH back the way he was but we are moving slowly forward remembering him for who he was. I hope you are able to do that also.

Ann

Just Bill

Hey Hoot, I appreciate you sharing your experiences with us. You and your wife are both in a better place now. Now like a fish that's been on a stringer all day that just got released, take off for the middle of the lake. Good luck and please continue to share your experiences with us.

Hoot619

Thanks all, these condolences just show me how much the caregivers here care about each other and their loved ones.  All of these help me in my grief and and  some really hit the nail on the head.

As a caregiver we are really put thru the wringer. We go thru situations that we never even had a clue about.  There are so many here that went thru this already and can offer good advice.  It is up to us to try it.

When I was in recovery, 40 years ago Friday the 30th I learned how to deal with my Father's death when I was a kid.  My therapist told me to write him a letter-it worked.  Now I have another letter to write and will do so in the days ahead. Writing this now with tears streaming down my face. Love you all. Hoot

abc123

Dear Hoot,

Please accept my sincere condolences. I am sorry to hear of Jan's passing. You and your family are in my prayers.

Pam BH

I'm so sorry, Hoot. What an amazing job you did caring for her. I'm glad you're focusing on all the good memories. My prayers are for you and your family to find peace knowing she's not suffering now.

jfkoc

Please add my condolences to those sent. It is a hard loss...a very hard loss.

I remember clearly the crippling pain as well as the shocking sense of relief. It was very strange and somewhat disconserting.

Please consider staying with us. Stage "8", grief, is often made easier with others by our side. 

Lills

I'm so very sorry for your loss. My sweet DH died 5 months ago so I can relate to the simultaneous grief and relief you may be feeling.  I agree that grief counseling (after a month) is helpful and I'd like to add that it's ok to cry, cry and cry some more.  Take care.

White Crane

Hoot, I'm so sorry.  You and your Jan have been in my prayers for quite a while and I know it was hard.  You have been a wonderful and loving caregiver and husband.  Praying for your peace and comfort.

Brenda

Kenzie56

I am so sorry for your loss.  Your DW is at peace now. You did have a wonderful love story and you need to focus on Jan before dementia. I hope you can now gain your strength back and live your remaining years knowing you did the best you could for her.  Everything you did was out of love.

nancyj194

Hoot, please accept my sincere condolences for the loss of your wife.

Thank you for sharing the journey with us.  

Wishing you peaceful healing.

caberr

So sorry for your loss.  Please take care of yourself