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  • May flowers
    May flowers Member Posts: 758
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    Well, just to update... my FIL did recover and lived another month after this post. He responded to antibiotics and it cleared up the pneumonia. 

    However, he stopped eating and drinking this past weekend. He has refused liquids since Sunday morning. He is showing all the signs of everything shutting down now. So very hard to watch.

  • CatsWithHandsAreTrouble
    CatsWithHandsAreTrouble Member Posts: 370
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    So sorry to hear about his change. You've all held in there for so long. ((Hugs))
  • ​fesk
    ​fesk Member Posts: 479
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    May flowers, my heart dropped when I saw this post. I am so very sorry. You are all in my prayers. Hang in there and try to take care of yourself during this time.
  • ninalu
    ninalu Member Posts: 132
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    We are thinking of you and your family right now and sending warm wishes. It's been a long month of up and downs, it sounds, and I hope you're getting some rest and comfort.
  • zauberflote
    zauberflote Member Posts: 272
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    May flowers, I am so sorry. Virtual hugs.....
  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,568
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    I’m so sorry,  If this is indeed ‘it’, I pray he goes peacefully.
  • M1
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    Thinking about you all.  Hope the journey's end is peaceful.
  • Battlebuddy
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       Oh May Flowers, 

      What a Fall you have had with all the ups and downs of caring for FIL. You have been a wonderful care giver and I admire you for it. 

       It does seem like this could be it. 

      Our thoughts and prayers are with you! 

  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 1,216
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    Aw, May Flowers - so much up-and-down...  emotional toll on you and family, and now this. Thinking of you ((hugs))
  • harshedbuzz
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    Mayflowers-

    I am sorry to hear this.

    I am wishing you and your DH strength in the days ahead and a peaceful passing for your dear FIL.

    HB
  • mommyandme (m&m)
    mommyandme (m&m) Member Posts: 1,468
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    I’m so sorry! What an exhausting time for all of you.  I’m wishing you, your hubby and your FIL peace and comfort as you continue to travel this road.  My thoughts are with you and yours.
  • May flowers
    May flowers Member Posts: 758
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    My FIL passed at 2 am. The last 24 hours were very peaceful for him and he appeared comfortable. His other son and family came in to say goodbye earlier. 

    I am sure this will all hit me tomorrow. I already feel a little out of sorts after five years of his being here and caring for him (minus 9 months of memory care, but you still manage the care and visit several times a week). We’ve seen him go through every stage. 

    He kissed my hand and chuckled at something funny my husband  said not even a week ago.

    I know he’s in a better place, but I sure will miss him. *tears*

  • ​fesk
    ​fesk Member Posts: 479
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    I am very sorry for your loss and glad his passing was peaceful. Your FIL sounded like a wonderful person, and you certainly gave your all to give him the best quality of life and help him be as comfortable as possible throughout this difficult disease.

    You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

  • harshedbuzz
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    Mayflowers-

    I am sorry for your loss. 

    HB
  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,568
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    I’m sorry for your family’s loss.  I know you are all exhausted.  Please take the time to grieve and rest.
  • toolbeltexpert
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    May flowers sorry for your loss. I will be in prayer for you and yours. May God comfort you during this time.
  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 1,216
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    So sorry - Thoughts and prayers to you and family.  ((hugs))
  • mommyandme (m&m)
    mommyandme (m&m) Member Posts: 1,468
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    Such a difficult yet loving journey for you and your family.  I’m so sorry he’s gone but glad he’s at peace, finally.  Your husband and his family are blessed to have you in their lives.  You helped make your FIL’s life full of all the quality possible.  Take good care of yourself while you acclimate to the next phase of your life.  Thank you for sharing your struggles and victories with me/us.  Bless you.
  • Kibbee
    Kibbee Member Posts: 229
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    I am sorry for your loss.  I hope you will be at peace in your heart, knowing that you gave him the loving care and the best life possible as he faced his health challenges.
  • mrl
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    May Flowers,

    You're in my prayers, his picture is so sweet. Bless you all,

    Michele

  • GothicGremlin
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    May flowers - I'm so very sorry for your loss, but I'm glad his passing was a peaceful one.  Wishing you and your family peace at this time.
  • Joydean
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    May flower, can you just hear God saying I have a fighter on my team! I mean no disrespect, but your FIL has been a great fighter.  My prayers are with you and your family. Please take some time for yourself now, that’s probably what he would want for you. I still smile at him kissing your hand, what a gentleman! Peace and comfort to all your family.
  • ninalu
    ninalu Member Posts: 132
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    Mayflowers,
    My warm thoughts and wishes are with you and your family tonight. I am so sorry for your loss.
  • Stori
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    I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for caring for him. 

    Love and light. 

  • Olly_Bake
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    I am so so sorry for your loss May Flowers. Hugs, prayers, and much love.
  • N00dles
    N00dles Member Posts: 39
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    I am sorry for your loss. Glad you had the extra time with him. Take care.
  • CatsWithHandsAreTrouble
    CatsWithHandsAreTrouble Member Posts: 370
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    So sorry May Flowers! ((Hugs)) glad some of his other family members could come and see him. I'm sure that would have made him happy.

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