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And now, my turn to announce…

My husband passed early this morning. The suddenness of his decline was shocking. He was surrounded by his cousins and me, helping him on the painful path to his next adventure. 

Thank you all, my special friends, for your support. I wish you peace.

I will be going dark for a while.

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  • mrl
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    Oh Lynne,

    So shocked. My heart hurts for you. God Bless you both. I will keep you in my prayers. Michele

  • French
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    Lynne, 

    How sudden it has been. I hope he didn’t suffer too much and I send you my deepest sympathy 

  • loveskitties
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    Lynne, so very sorry to hear of your rather sudden loss.  

    I am sure you have mixed emotions.

    You did all you could and now may you both have peace of heart and mind.

  • M1
    M1 Member Posts: 6,726
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    Bless you dear.  Glad his suffering has ended for both of you.  Post when you can/want to.
  • Ed1937
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    Lynne, I'm so sorry. I know this is so very hard to handle, and I wish you peace in the coming times.
  • Just Bill
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    Lynne D wow that seemed sudden and unexpected even though we know it can happen anytime especially when you don't expect it. You have done the best you could escorting him off the planet, now you can begin the process of healing yourself. Good luck and stay strong.
  • Hoot619
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    Lynne, Real sorry to hear of his passing but he is not hurting anymore.
  • Mint
    Mint Member Posts: 2,680
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    Lynne I’m so very sorry for your loss.
  • Lills
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    Lynne, I'm so sorry!  I have no words; I just want to wish you peace as you begin grieving your DH's death.  Take care!
  • 60 falcon
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    I'm sorry Lynne.
  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,413
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    I am shocked, Lynne.  Three days ago you posted about his TIA.  I never once thought he would pass away this quick.  I’m sorry that this disease took away the  person you expected to grow old with.  I know it’s been a really rough year for you and your family.  Step away from us as long as you need to, then come back and let us know how you are doing. Rest, relax, go somewhere.  Whatever feels right to you, is.
  • ImMaggieMae
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    Lynne, I am so sorry for your loss. You took great care of him in your home and went through so much to keep him there. I will keep both of you in my prayers.
  • Joydean
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    Oh Lynne I’m so sorry. Happy you were right there to send him to a peaceful place. Virtual hugs for you. Be kind to yourself. You did everything anyone could do. Peace and strength and prayers for you and your family. When you feel like saying hello we will be here for you. Rest and let your heart heal.
  • PlentyQuiet
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    I am so sorry it was this sudden. But I am glad his struggle, and yours is over. I know it has not been easy for you and I hope you can heal.

    You did an excellent job in a most difficult situation.

  • A. Marie
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    Lynne, I send my best thoughts to both you and French. You've both had extreme roller-coaster rides with abrupt ends. I know that healing is not going to be simple or quick for either of you--but you both have my sympathy.
  • Jo C.
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    Dearest Lynne; this is such stunning unexpected news.   I am so very sorry.   It is heartening to know that you were with your husband and that he was attended by his other loved ones as he left this earthly realm.  You were his rock and faithfully went the distance and then some.

    With tears in my eyes, my heartfelt condolences are sent your way.  When you are ready and able, we will be looking for you.

    Strength and peace,

    J.

  • Marie58
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    Lynne, I'm so sorry for his sudden passing. May the Lord bless you. You were a great caregiver and loving wife. Blessings to you.
  • Gig Harbor
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    Lynne I am shocked and sad but I know he is in a better place. You have wonderful memories of your life. Take care of yourself.
  • Pat6177
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    I’m so sorry Lynne.
  • June45
    June45 Member Posts: 365
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    Oh Lynn, so sudden and I am so sorry. Grieving for us long term caregivers is so different...you will be hit with a full gamut of emotions.
  • MaryG123
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    Oh my gosh Lynne, what a shock!   I’m so sorry, and know you miss him.  You’ve inspired me with your kind and thoughtful posts, and hope you have peace soon.
  • Cherjer
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    Dear Lynn,

    I am so sorry to  hear this news. He did go quickly and glad he is no longer suffering. May he rest in peace and may you have peace in the following days and months. I have always admired you taking care of your husband at home despite the struggles you encountered so often. Please come back when you are ready ad let us know how you are doing...you have been a friend to us for a long time. Cheryl

  • Dio
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    Oh, Lynne, I'm so sorry to hear, but I do feel some relief knowing both of your sufferings are over. Take the time to nurture yourself and begin to live again!
  • Jeff86
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    Lynne,

    My deepest condolences to you on your DH’s passing.  Such a rapid decline—how overwhelming for you.

    You have been a heroic caregiver and a thoughtful poster.  I hope you can now turn your energies to healing yourself.   I wish you peace in the coming weeks and months.

  • dayn2nite2
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    It sounded from your post about increasing hospice services that he was on his final decline, but I was hoping he might rally.

    I'm sorry for your loss, it's a mixed bag of grief and relief in that he's no longer suffering and locked in that body.  I'm sure you will be busy in the next few days and when that activity is over, you can take some time to get some rest.  You did a great job advocating for him and that job is now done.
  • Jgirl57
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     I am sorry for your loss . I learned so much from you.

    I pray for peace for you and your family.

  • Joe C.
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    Lynne, My sincere condolences on the loss of your husband. May you find some peace in the days ahead.
  • Lorita
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    Lynne, please accept my sincere condolences on your loss.  So many of us know how you are feeling now.  Know that your husband is no longer in pain - he's free of this terrible disease.  Take care of yourself.
  • CD5
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    Oh Lynne, I am very new here and could see right away what a great support you have been to this group. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

  • Vitruvius
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    Lynne D,
    The cruelty of the disease is unfathomable. You have my very deepest sympathy.
    I wish you peace and strength in the days ahead.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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