Welcome! New Forum for Caregivers

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This is a new discussion forum for caregivers supporting a parent living with Alzheimer's or other dementia.

Dekneese

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dragonslayer

Mom won't see a doctor and increasingly living in an alternate reality. Loses track of items like keys constantly. Won't accept help and getting very angry. I don't know what to do. How do I help her understand she can't take care of her finances and such?

Brandie

Remember it’s her world, walk in it with her. Do not argue it makes matters worse. Agree with her, help her look for her Keyes, when they are found if they ever are hide them so she can’t drive or leave the house without you. Get a yellow DOT for the car and/or house that notifies public servants that your LO is affected by a mental disorder. If you haven’t please take the FREE course offered by the ALZ Association to help you to better cope, Hope this helps.

Japajaski

I am new to the group. My mom has FTD. What is a yellow DOT?

N00dles

Not sure yet what to think about the new website. I was used to the other message board system.

In 2 days, day after Easter, I am flying to my parents' home for a week long visit. Last month my dad, ADLO, was in the hospital a few days. I will see when I get there if he still knows me, or if the time in the hospital, and his increased confusion, has robbed him of more memory. I really hate this disease.

Jo C.

HELLO AND WELCOME, IT APPEARS THERE IS A BIT OF A PROBLEM FOR THE THREADS POSTED HERE,

IT APPEARS THAT THE POSTS HERE ARE STUCK IN AN ADMINISTRATIVE MESSAGE AND WILL NOT BE SEEN.

PLEASE INITIATE A NEW THREAD OUTSIDE THE ADMIN MESSAGE AND YOU WILL BE SEEN AND GET

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McKinneyVA1492

I am new to this community but appreciate deeply the kinship of others giving care to a parent with VD. I am just truly coming to terms with my own feelings and emotions on all this and having my parent progressively get worse is overwhelming.

Oldestdaughter2023

New to this site and dealing with my mom’s symptoms getting worse. She is almost 81 and was diagnosed in Jan 2021 With mild cognitive impairment. Now that the short term memory issues are worse my dad needs more help. My sister and I live near them and agreed to help my dad more. We have a brother and another sister out of state. All of their legal docs are in place but now we need to be more involved in the day to day to help my Dad. He is in a bit of denial about what she is able to do. We have gradually become more involved without overstepping but now we need to! He has aged a lot the past year and tries to put on the face that everything is ok. He is physically and mentally sharp but for how long??? All of my sibs and I have offered many options and suggestions on different living options from a villa that offers step up care to in home help. He is overwhelmed with all of the options so he doesn’t want to do anything. He is in one place and she is in another. We all have friends that have been through this with various situations. We all are grieving what we had and want to do the right thing. He wants to take her on a road trip to Florida this summer. 3 days in the car. They went to AZ for a month this winter. We all worry about him driving long distances and getting into an accident or having a medical issue and my mom not knowing what to do. My husband says we all need to tell my Dad it isn’t a good idea. We have in the past and he still does what he wants,,,

when will we all stop acting like we are teenagers and afraid of Dad and just take control. We are all adults in our 50’s still afraid of Dad,!!! Love them both but that is the dynamic.

how do we as adults manage and help the, transition😏