How can I make my questions easier to understand?

georgino719

My grandfather has AD and has not been answering my questions properly as of late. One time we were out at a restaurant having some soup. I helped him take a quick sip of his soup and asked him whether it was too hot. He replied stating that it was delicious and that he wanted to have some more. Thinking that he meant that the soup was of a good temperature, I let him have his soup. However, after multiple sips of his soup, his lips were clearly burnt and he complained that it was way too hot. I immediately apologized. I feel quite guilty as I should have tested the soup myself and not have gotten him hurt. But how can I get him to properly tell me whether or not he is fine with the soup?

harshedbuzz

Short answer-- you can't.

His auditory processing is likely impacted with the progression of the disease. You have to address this as you might a child who cannot be a reliable reporter and protect him. There comes a time when even yes/no and a choice between 2 options is more than a PWD can comfortably process.

HB