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Saying she doesn't have it now
Hello! I am a full te caregiver to my husband grandparents, who i absolutely adore! She has Alz and he lost both legs the end of last year, beginning of this year. I started helping towards the end of last year. Gma was referred to a neuro to see if she's a candidate for for treatment that stops the progression of Alz.…
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National Do Not Call Registry
My DW has been receiving an ever increasing amount of spam calls on her cell phone lately. She is currently stage 4 and I while I don't want to discourage her from using the phone, I want to make sure that she is safe. While looking for solutions, I came across the National Do Not Call Registry (donotcall.gov) Not sure if…
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Anger and depression
My father has been declining rapidly mentally. His depression hasn't been able to be controlled with meds and he keeps getting meaner. He's in denial but sometimes I think what I say actually makes it to his thinking process sometimes but is often turned around on me and it's my fault or something I did or didn't do. I'm…
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Struggling with providing care for my very willful Mom
I'm new here, but desperate for help with handling these difficult things, and feeling like I'm really botching this pretty badly. A little over a year ago, I moved in to look after my Mom, who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's when she was still somewhere in the middle stages. My family was never good with communication or…
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Seeking a Large Visual Memory System and Apple Watch for Safer Independent Living
Hi everyone, My name is Christopher. I want to be transparent that I have medically documented mild cognitive impairment and post-concussion symptoms following motor-vehicle accidents, rather than a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia. I am posting here because many members have valuable lived experience…
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New to this group
My mom diagnosed with Alzheimer's or psychosis with dementia. And Its getting worse.
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I am new to this community
Hello, I am new to this community and looking for support and help. I am 78, and my husband is 5.5 years younger. I have spoken at length with my doctor about what's going on in my life, and she has been very supportive and suggested I come here for guidance. I have seen my husband's decline over the past several years,…
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Good news (I think)
My Dad was originally diagnosed with MCI Stage 3 and then the doctor upgraded him to Stage 4. He just had his MRI & blood work done. No proteins found in his blood and the MRI was not bad at all. He had Mild changes consistent with his age & Hypertension history. The doctor wants to give him another cognitive test to…
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How or if to tell my parents they are moving to memory care
I am about to move my parents into memory care in a few weeks. They are both 95 with stage 4/5 dementia. They have been living in assisted living for the past 4 years so the move would just be across the courtyard to a more secure facility with more support. My question for this group is when, how, or if to tell them they…
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Dad recently diagnosed
Hello all. I’m so grateful for these groups. I’m just beginning my Dads journey and I’m alone and need guidance please !!! I am a paramedic for 35 years and have a lot of medical experience but I have ZERO experience with this disease. From what I’m learning this disease follows no normal patterns. I feel like a rookie…
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Dementia certified caregivers
Would becoming a certified dementia caregiver help me remotely manage my DO's care? I'm looking for more specific info on how to communicate with her and her anticipated caregivers. I'd appreciate the groups input on whether a certified caregiver seems to be more knowledgeable than non-certified caregivers. Thanks for…
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Sharing your LO's background with various providers
My mom has been in the hospital a few times (including the ER, behavioral health, ICU, regular hospital) and also has home care aides and home health nurses come by. Every time we interact with a new provider we need to repeat the same information over and over again, adding in anything new. I started collecting some of…
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Dad's Almost Totally Impossible to Communicate With - Help Needed
[I've been a lurker for a few months, but I'm hoping to get some advice. Thanks, in advance.] My Dad (82) was diagnosed with early-stage Alzheimer's just under a year ago. Yes, I was floored. But it made sense, too. We'd been fighting for a few years regarding how he's [not] been communicating me in a reliable manner. For…
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Delivering Bad News
Looking for some advice on how to have difficult conversations with someone with dementia. My mom was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia in January. We recently moved her into an assisted living facility as she is not able to live alone safely anymore. She is relatively young, 63, and while she definitely has some…
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How to inform your parent of major home maintenance plans
Does anyone have advice on how to inform a parent about major necessary home repairs? My siblings and I live out-of-state from my mom. While she still lives independently, she has trouble with executive function, particularly finding and hiring people to do home maintenance. Her roof is old and is in a state of total…
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Anosognosia, suggestions?
My mom moved into AL yesterday and is slowly realizing that most people around her have some kind of ailment. She is so annoyed by all the attention from the nursing staff and is saying things like “They’re acting like I am here for a medical reason” and “What have you got me into?” I know you can’t rationalize with…
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Using updatable photo frames to communicate schedules/information
This is a helpful tip (I hope), and also a question if others can recommend frame brands. My mother has grown increasingly confused about organizing her day. She is solidly in Stage 4, so I think this post is most applicable around that phase. We have found it very helpful to give her a photo frame on her dining table.…
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New member. Caring for DH
My DH is somewhere between early and middle stage. He was diagnosed in 2022, at age 71, 13 months after my mother died of Alzheimer’s (she stopped taking nourishment) at the age of 93. That was a nightmare because it was Covid with my mom and no paid caregivers were available when she started needing 24 h caregiving so it…
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Are digital memory boards helpful?
We have been considering purchasing a digital memory board for my parents. Mom is in LTC and Dad in AL. Mom’s memory is starting to fade. Dad has diagnosed ALZ. Thinking it would help with reminders of hair appointments, activities, share photos, etc. But it’s a good investment so wanted to see if anyone has found them to…
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Living as dependent
My mother and I live together as her early onset Alzheimers gets worse. I am still considered her dependent, and as an added bonus have severe disabilities as well. She will not let me talk about finances with her. I dont know how to approach this the right way, because I have nowhere else to live if she went to memory…
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How to move forward?
Hi there. My mom was formally diagnosed 2 years ago, though we as a family have noticed she has been progressing more quickly than before for the past few months. Unfortunately, her dad, who also has Alzheimer's and lives in a memory home, needed to be set up with hospice care last week. This has caused an even further…
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Mid-stage Dementia : Agitation and Aggression
My father has dementia. He lives with my mom in their home, and my mom is his primary caregiver- I am his secondary caregiver. About a year ago he started having issues with incontinence. A few months ago he was determined to be mid- stage dementia. After many months of urging my mom, she agreed to hire a part time…
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Mom Won’t Stop Staring Out the Door
This is kind of a funny one, but I don’t know what to do about it. My mom has Alzheimer’s disease (moderate stage), and she loves looking outside through our windows and door. The problem is is that we have a shared driveway, so there’s usually people walking past our door. To be honest I personally would feel kinda…
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Caring for mom at home
I’ve been caring for my mom pretty much full time since 2020 but my Dad helped until he passed in early 2024. She already had mobility issues from a stroke and a fall, but since he died she’s gone downhill with her dementia. She’s maybe a mid-stage 5 but it’s hard to assess since I’ve been helping her do her ADLS for years…
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Constantly saying Help Me please
I am a daughter with autism age 50 and live with my elderly father age 85. He keeps repeating the phrase Help ME please, very insistently, and then switches to Help me Jesus or praying the Hail Mary. He has a caregiver in the morning and my brother comes in the evening for a small amount of time. I’m left alone to hear him…
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We can't persuade her to take a shower anymore.
Hello, My 85-year-old mother-in-law with Alzheimer's lives with me and my husband. He works full-time and I am at home due to disability. We used to be able to remind her to take a shower every few days and she would grumble a little and do it. Then she started resisting more strongly. We tried asking her if there was…
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Ways to be in touch in later stages
Hi all, new to these forums and am my mother's primary (long-distance) caregiver since she moved into a very good MC facility in 2023. My mother is in a good way, quite positive and at peace thankfully, if alot of tiredness and some moments of frustration. As I am based in Europe and she's in the Washington, DC area, I…
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Progressing too fast
It’s been awhile since I posted. My mom, 73, has been in MC for over a year. This past month she went from being okay to almost completely mute. No UTI. Her suite mate was her security/friend. But she started having bad mood swings and taking it out on my mom. My mom has since become withdrawn and just this past…
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newly diagnosed.
New diagnosis, no treatment or medication started yet. I am 68 and have suspected this diagnosis for almost 18 months. Felt gaslit by my family when I mentioned it. They were in denial and basically told me it was just ADHD. Now that I am diagnosed, THEY are the ones that are like deer in the headlights. Husband says…