Constantly Arguing

NUMber2

Does anyone else argue with their spouse/ partner regarding care of a parent with dementia?

If so, have you found anything that works to help alleviate the stress on your relationship?

Marta

Whose parent is it? Does that person have POA? The person with POA gets to make the decisions. The other spouse is the support person and can offer their opinion in a supportive way.

M1

Looked back at your other thread. I'm sorry you're in such conflict about your mother's needs, it's obviously having huge negative impact on you in multiple dimensions. I wonder if your local Alzheimer's Association chapter could recommend some local counselors who are dementia savvy-someone you could potentially talk to with and without your spouse.

But to answer your question, yes i think many of those who are caring for a parent find that it takes a toll on their other relationships too. Those of us caring for spouses have the different burden of losing the very relationship that (for many but not all) is/was our most sustaining. None of it is easy.

2parents/brain change

My own marriage has managed to navigate through my mom's and his Dad's dementia. (Both are still living. In different states, in memory care.)

I have watched my siblings marriages really take hits on this journey. I do believe you and your partner's relationship comes first. What ever it takes, to work together do it!

Our parents have their roads to travel. Some of them got really awful roads (that's putting it nicely), but as with our kids, we can't change that. We can only do the best we can.

Take good care to help you and your spouse get through this. One partner usually leads to way to see how hard life is on the relationship and starts to get help.

Coming to Alzheimer's Association community is a great place to start!

Take care!