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Jeanne C.

Hang in there. This is a tough hurdle for so many of us. But the repercussions could be disastrous. You did the right thing.

M1

Bravo, you did do the right thing. Steel yourself to have to discuss it over and over. Appeal to his better nature, remind him how awful he would feel if someone were hurt or killed.

I am sorry you are having a hard night.

CStrope

I understand how hard this was for you, we all can relate. Hang in there.

darcytg

So difficult, so many losses to grieve along the way.

I've been mostly successful declaring I'm the new chauffeur and reminding my LO that I'm willing to go when and where my LO desires. After a few days, my LO actually commented that it's nice to not drive and watch the scenery. Now, after 2 months, she's the designated DJ and rarely walks to the drivers side when we get in the car.

Best of luck and much kindness to you as you navigate these new turbulent waters of life.

Just smile and breathe. Acknowledge the losses and kep coming from love.

JeriLynn66

Warm hugs to you ❤️

LJCHR

Losing driving privilege is always a tough hurdle. I was able to convince my DH that we didn't need 2 cars and our grandson needed his. He gave his to our grandson's and has never asked to drive mine. That's over 2 years ago.

M5M

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/192359#Comment_192359

Good for you, Darcy… you found a positive point in a difficult situation! And I think it’s important to create frequent opportunities to take your LO out….my DH wasn’t too resistant to giving up drive, but he misses the freedom and ability to go somewhere….anywhere. We frequent stores, offer shops, parks, etc. he is much more content when we are able to be out 3-4 times a week.

mrahope

Absolutely one of the toughest things I've ever had to do. I remember when I trusted his driving so much that I fell asleep on long, late drives home. Sigh. You did the right thing for yourselves, and also for others. If your DH drove he could injure or even end the life of someone completely innocent.

M5M, you hit the nail on the head for me, too. My DH doesn't miss driving so much per se as the freedom to go wherever, whenever. I've already suggested a drive today. Who knows where? It probably doesn't matter.

wose

It was a sad day, but I drove him around today on Christmas. I just drove aimlessly up the turnpike for 2 hrs and back, He must of asked me 10 times if he could drive. Then we have to have the grueling conversation again. We just got back and he discovered that his keys are missing. He’s angry with me again and wants his keys back. Will the tears ever end? Thanks everyone for your unwavering support💙

JDancer

Thank you for taking this difficult step. You made it safer for all of us, your LO included.

You've given us all a gift.

Pat6177

Wose, are they actual keys or is it a key fob? I sold my SUV and we drive his sedan. I gave him the key fob with a dead battery. My DH has never discovered that it’s dead. But my plan if he did discover that the fob didn’t work, I could come up with stalling fibs like “we have to go to the dealership, the hardware store is out of that type of battery etc. And now he tries to use the house key to open the car door, he has no idea what the key fob is.

Congratulations on taking this huge step. Hang in there!