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Its Our Turn. Preparing to say farewell...

ButterflyWings
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Unbelievably, though we knew it was coming in the not too distant future, DH is transitioning right before my eyes. He rallied in the last 2 weeks, and now suddenly we are walking through the steps for last day/s on this earth.

I will let you know when I can. For now, I have been assured by hospice that he is in very good hands with this wife he chose a while back =) I know there is no place I would rather be right now, than by his side.

Thank you for the gentle words recently (and I got your PM, M&M). It makes these last moments somehow easier at least knowing for sure there is nothing else to be done. Alz is taking its toll and at Stage 7, this man deserves to be released from its grip finally.

Numb, but up for the task. Praying that you and yours are as well as possible today.

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  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 4,578
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    I'm so sorry.
    HB

  • mommyandme (m&m)
    mommyandme (m&m) Member Posts: 1,468
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    May your days be peaceful…with your DH. I hope you can find some comfort this Easter weekend. I’m so very sorry.

  • midge333
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    I am so sorry. I hope he has a quick and painless death.

  • loveskitties
    loveskitties Member Posts: 1,087
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    So sorry to hear this news.

    May it be a peaceful passing. Your love and caring will make it so.

  • Phoenix1966
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    Hoping that the transition you are both facing is gentle.

  • housefinch
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    I’m so sorry. Sending you strength and know that you are a wonderful wife.

  • Brokenhearted in Illinois
    Brokenhearted in Illinois Member Posts: 70
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    Take comfort knowing that your DH and you are in God’s hands

  • White Crane
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    i’m so sorry. Please know that you and your husband are in my prayers. May you find comfort in the coming days. You have been a wonderful caregiver for him.

    Brenda

  • fmb
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    I'm so sorry. May you both find peace.

  • Caro_Lynne
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    When the inevitable finally happens, while knowing it will eventually happen, does not lessen the pain and grief we experience. I'm glad you are by his side during his transition; as difficult as that may be. You can rest easy knowing that you have done everything you can as a caregiver and loving DW. xo

  • Joe C.
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    I am so sorry you have reach this point in your journey. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers.

  • Babz0226
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    I'm so sorry. You have been a wonderful caregiver and have helped me so many times reading your posts. Take care.

  • Mint
    Mint Member Posts: 2,812
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    I’m sorry. Sending you a soft hug.

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,557
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    I’m so sorry.

  • M1
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    thinking of you both dear friend.

  • jfkoc
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    It is a hard time….holding both of you in my heart

  • dancsfo
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    May you and DH find peace.

  • LJCHR
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    So sorry. My friend's father has Alzheimer's and is in the process of transitioning now.

    I told her that the only gold at the end of the Alzheimer's rainbow is eternal peace. May your DH find his eternal peace.

    And, prayers that you find the strength to get you through this - give yourself grace. You have been a good caregiver for your husband.

  • toolbeltexpert
    toolbeltexpert Member Posts: 1,583
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    Bw my prayers continue for you and may your dh be free from this awful disease.

  • Nowhere
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    You’re strong and an amazing caregiver. I’m so sorry you’ve both had to travel this path. Sending hopes and prayers for his easy transition.

  • Emily 123
    Emily 123 Member Posts: 831
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    I'm so sorry.

  • Buggytoo
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    edited March 30

    Wishing you peace and comfort as you say your earthly goodbye to your beloved husband.

  • BassetHoundAnn
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    I'm so sorry. Wishing you both peace and comfort.

  • Beachfan
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    Peace and prayers. May the angels lead him into Paradise.

  • Joydean
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    so sorry Butterfly Wings, my prayers are with you and your husband and family.

  • Vitruvius
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    Peace and comfort to you and your DH. May his passing be as gentle as possible.

  • RickM
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    I'm right behind you. Peace and love.

    Rick

  • GothicGremlin
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    Thinking of you @ButterflyWings

    I know the feeling "unbelievable", It's like this can't be happening ….. But it's also a relief because our LOs aren't suffering any more. Stage 7 is not anything I'd wish on anyone.

    I hope that your DH's passing is peaceful. With you and hospice by his side, he really is in good hands.

  • Jgirl57
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    I am thinking about you and your DH as this terrible disease lets go of him. Peace

  • ImMaggieMae
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    I am so sorry. You’ve done everything you can do. Wishing peace and love through his final steps.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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