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Its Our Turn. Preparing to say farewell...

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  • M5M
    M5M Member Posts: 120
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    butterfly, I pray you can savor these last moments as your husband finally has peace. You have been his champion for so long, I wish release and rest for you both.

  • northernlady
    northernlady Member Posts: 92
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    Holding you in the light.

    You've been a hero for your husband.

    Respectfully,

    M

  • ghphotog
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    I'm very sorry.

  • CindyBum
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    Sending you peace and light on this Easter morning.

  • Jeanne C.
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    Wishing you peace, comfort, and strength.

  • ladyzetta
    ladyzetta Member Posts: 1,028
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    Dear Butterfly,

    You're in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs Zetta

  • Lills
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    Thinking of you and wishing you peace. Lills

  • ImMaggieMae
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    Thank you for keeping us updated. I have been thinking about you and your husband every day. You say that your aid is companion care and not really helpful at this point. Is she from hospice? Is there any chance of hiring someone to help you get him in and out of bed? Even with a hospital bed it has to be difficult for you to move him. We use one of those slippery slide sheets to help, but moving a man who is 6 ft and around 170 lbs isn’t easy, even when he is able to walk unsteadily.

    It brought tears to my eyes to hear you say that for a time your dear husband was talking in complete sentences that make sense and sitting at the table and eating. Such a gift along with all you’ve been through. You are such a compassionate caregiver and certainly a role model for me. Your husband is so lucky to have you.

  • Jeff86
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    BW you are such a courageous and dedicated caregiver. I’m glad you have been given the gift of a little more time and wish you and your DH peace in the time left to him. We are with you on your journey.

  • JeriLynn66
    JeriLynn66 Member Posts: 884
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    Continuing to hold you up in prayer.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 4,581
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    Thank you for taking the time to update. You and your DH have been on my mind.

    HB

  • LJCHR
    LJCHR Member Posts: 202
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    Thank you for the update. Have been thinking about you and husband and how things are going. Grateful for you that you are getting the extra time but praying for your strength. This disease is such a roller coaster ride. Prayers continuing to come your way.

  • Babz0226
    Babz0226 Member Posts: 58
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    Thinking of you and your DH and hoping you remain strong like you have always been a great caregiver. I hope to be like you when the time comes.

    Take Care

  • jfkoc
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    thinking of you

  • sally1
    sally1 Member Posts: 2
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    I am at a similar place with my DH. God be with you. Hugs and prayers.

  • housefinch
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    Sending you hugs and comfort.

  • ValsMom
    ValsMom Member Posts: 5
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    My prayers for your DH and peace for you.

  • toolbeltexpert
    toolbeltexpert Member Posts: 1,583
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    Thank you BW for the update. I don't get on often anymore. My dw had that same sudden downturn then a rally, then 2 weeks later gone. Nothing predictable, prayers continue.

  • sally1
    sally1 Member Posts: 2
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    Stay strong in the Lord. Don't let anyone tell you what to do. Savor every moment with your loved one.

  • DWTired
    DWTired Member Posts: 48
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    Prayers for you! It is a hard time in this journey…Hugs to you!’

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,558
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    BW thank you for the update. It’s really a rollercoaster, isn’t it. I pray for peace for you.

  • Joe C.
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    BW, Thank you for the update. This is certainly a long and winding road. I will keep you and you husband in my prayers.

  • fmb
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    @ButterflyWings

    Thank you for the update. You have been in my thoughts a lot lately, as our husbands were at about the same stage and seemingly progressing together. My DH also recently experienced a period of increased lucidity and energy. It was such a blessing and joy! While I pray that your DH rebounds again, I also pray that if this is the beginning of the final end that it be peaceful and merciful. Take care of yourself, and if you find yourself with a spare minute or two, please stop in and give us a brief update. We're still here for you. ((hug))

  • Babz0226
    Babz0226 Member Posts: 58
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    I think of you and your DH often. I'm still trying to follow all your suggestions about keeping him home. Time will tell.

    Take care, we all miss you.

  • ThisLife
    ThisLife Member Posts: 267
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    It's good to hear from you. I'm happy for you that you have had this time with DH when he is more "present."

  • Dio
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    So good to hear from you, and very glad to hear your update. To survive this roller coaster, it's good that we are presented with some lucid and happy moments.

  • DWTired
    DWTired Member Posts: 48
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    Prayers for you…HUGS…….💕

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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