Reposting new thread for nickibaker

M1

I am also going through a similar experience with a man I have known for 15 years- After being in the hospital monthly for COPD for 1 1/2 years, rehab twice, and finally home with a part-time aid, his dementia became a bigger issue than his COPD. He is in denial (part of Dementia) and can be difficult. He does not accept that his driver's license was suspended and intends to keep his car on the streets of NYC so he can drive it. He has NO family - no one to help, advocate, etc. Somehow I became the "caregiver" without realizing what that meant. I have to be the COP now, who controls him, according to his Drs. I need to remove the car. Currently, I am so stressed that I am becoming ill. I need help.

M1

Nicki, welcome to the forum, you have come to a good place for advice and support. Do you hold his powers of attorney? I would not commit to becoming his full-time caregiver unless you do. A certified elder law attorney can help you sort this out (look at nelf.org). That will also give you authority to deal with the car. Some have advised that the easiest way to disable a car is to put a steering wheel lock on it.