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My DW & Hospice Education

subversivevegan
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Today, my DW of 25 years was released from the ravages of of this evil disease (+ cancer) and is, truly, in a better place.

I was lucky enough to be by her side, holding her hand, when she passed. And I might have been alarmed at the changes she underwent, if not for having learned about the signs and sounds and changes that are common as our bodies prepare to die. I highly recommend the (free) videos from "Hospice Nurse Julie".

I am terribly heartbroken , but as most here know, I began grieving long before today.

Peace be with all of you.

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  • HangingIn
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    I am so sorry for your loss.

  • M1
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    Bless you both. I hope it brings peace and relief....

  • fmb
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    I am so sorry for your loss. May you find peace and strength in the days to come. Thank you for the hospice video recommendation. I plan to watch those tomorrow.

  • wose
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    I’m so sorry to read about the loss of your DW. May you find peace, comfort and strength in the days and months ahead.💜

  • Jeanne C.
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    Peace and comfort to you.

  • trottingalong
    trottingalong Member Posts: 812
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    I am so sorry, it’s bittersweet.

  • ButterflyWings
    ButterflyWings Member Posts: 1,777
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    Heartfelt condolences to you. May she rest in peace and may you find peace as well, in time.

    What a blessing to be prepared, and at her side as she escaped this disease’s clutches, finally. We are here for you whenever you need.

  • Pat6177
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    I’m sorry. Be gentle with yourself as you move forward.

  • SSHarkey
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    I am so sorry! Peace to you!

  • JeriLynn66
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    Peace be with you.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 5,898
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    I am sorry for your loss.

    I second the Nurse Julie recommendation.

    HB

  • midge333
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    I am sorry for your loss.

  • mrahope
    mrahope Member Posts: 566
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    So sorry for all you are going through. Thanks for taking time to recommend something that may bring comfort to many of us here when our time comes.

  • mommyandme (m&m)
    mommyandme (m&m) Member Posts: 1,468
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    I’m very sorry for the loss of your dear wife. I hope you can find some peace and comfort as you move forward.

  • LadyTexan
    LadyTexan Member Posts: 815
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    Dear subversivevegan,

    I am sorry for your loss. I pray you will find peace. God bless you and your DW.

    Thank you for the recommendation.

  • jfkoc
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    Please accept my condolences too.

  • ImMaggieMae
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    Wishing you peace and comfort. I am so sorry for your loss.

  • Caro_Lynne
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    edited May 2024

    SubversiveVegan, may your DW rest in heavenly peace. I pray you also find peace in knowing her spirit is free and that you were with her until the end. So sorry xo

    PS: thank you for recommending nurse Julie.

  • ThisLife
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    I wish you peace and comfort. I'm sorry for your loss. We had a wonderful hospice doctor explain in great detail what would happen in the phases. I've seen many Nurse Julie videos, and highly recommend them

  • Rocky2
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    edited May 2024

    I am so sorry for your loss. I just lost my DW this morning. It looks like we both now join those who "walked their love one home".

    Tom

  • subversivevegan
    subversivevegan Member Posts: 29
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    Tom, my sincere condolences. I pray that you find peace and comfort in your faith.

  • Jgirl57
    Jgirl57 Member Posts: 717
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    it is nice to know hospice helped you understand what was to come . Not easy, but maybe easier . Peace and hugs to you

  • Buggytoo
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    Sending wishes that comfort and peace surround you now and always.

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