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northernlady
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One year ago we learned my husband had dementia. As the year went on, Parkinsons became another issue. Last month, he was in heart failure. And today the love of my.life, my best buddy, and dearest friend died.

To all of you on this journey, you will stay in my heart. I have no words of wisdom. This is a horrible disease for the PWD and their caregivers.

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  • fmb
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    I am so sorry to learn of your loss. It is so hard to watch them fade away, especially when there are multiple comorbidities. Your love for each other is evident in your beautiful profile picture. (Hugs)

  • WIGO23
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    I hope your good memories will comfort you. Words are inadequate but please know that you have my deepest condolences.

  • GiGi1963
    GiGi1963 Member Posts: 111
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    So sorry for your loss. May your memories of his love comfort you.

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,557
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    I’m sorry for your loss. So much packed into such a short amount of time. You probably hadn’t come to acceptance of the dementia before all these other illnesses landed too.

  • housefinch
    housefinch Member Posts: 429
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    I’m so sorry for your loss.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,038
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    so sorry for your loss. Such a heartbreaking disease. May you find peace and comfort in the days ahead as you cherish the beautiful memories.

  • tigersmom
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    I am very sorry, @northernlady . You hardly had time to register his diagnosis, and now you must deal with his loss. I am wishing you strength to get through it, and peace on the other side.

  • Karen711
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    Heartbreaking news Northern Lady, I’m so sorry for your loss! One year is hardly enough time to process all you both have gone through, and now you are here with this profound loss. Please stay in touch with us if you’re so inclined, and let us know how you’re doing. Hugs!

  • Jeanne C.
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    Peace and comfort to you and your family. Take care.

  • northernlady
    northernlady Member Posts: 92
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/230309#Comment_230309

    Dio, I recognize that in 13 months we went from 0 - 60, and then ended. I know most people's journey is not as direct and is drawn out. I wish peace for all of you.

    Thank-you for your kind words.

  • Biggles
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    I am so sorry for your loss. You sound so close and loving it’s such a devastating illness. I wish you peace and comfort take care.

  • Elshack
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    Northern lady,

    Deepest Condolences to you. Cherish the memories and try to take gentle care of your self both physically and emotionally. Your last year has brought much sorrow and you have not has time to adjust to the various stages of dementia much less the Parkinson's and heart problems. In a way this is a blessing as you and your DH didn't have to suffer through many many years of those devastating illneses. Gentle ( HUGS ) to you.

  • CatladyNW
    CatladyNW Member Posts: 45
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    I am very sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength at this terribly sad time

  • JeriLynn66
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    Oh Lady, I am so sorry. Peace be with you.

  • cdgbdr
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    I am so sorry for your loss. Please take good care of yourself.

  • White Crane
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    so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. Praying for your peace and comfort.

  • midge333
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    I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

  • clarinetist
    clarinetist Member Posts: 176
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    My condolences to you.

  • ronda b
    ronda b Member Posts: 107
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    ❤️

  • Vitruvius
    Vitruvius Member Posts: 330
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    Peace and strength in the days ahead. His suffering is over and your healing can begin.

  • Elizabeth607
    Elizabeth607 Member Posts: 28
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    I am so sorry!

  • Russinator
    Russinator Member Posts: 38
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    My condolences to you. His suffering is over and your healing can begin.

  • jsps139_
    jsps139_ Member Posts: 228
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    I read this quote this morning … “How very much You love me God! … When I think of that love, I feel a sudden surge of courage to face the future. Even death becomes merely the beautiful moment when the One who loves and the one who is loved meet face-to-face.”

    You are in my prayers! God bless you through this difficult time!

  • Crkddy
    Crkddy Member Posts: 94
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

  • Crkddy
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  • Jo C.
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    Dear Northern Lady, I extend my heartfelt sympathy on the death of your beloved. There are no easy words to make things better, but we are thinking of you and send our warmest thoughts of support your way.

    J.

  • CampCarol
    CampCarol Member Posts: 100
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    I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your DH. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time.

  • ghphotog
    ghphotog Member Posts: 686
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

  • Joe C.
    Joe C. Member Posts: 977
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    My sincere condolences on the loss of your husband. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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