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Ossom
Ossom Member Posts: 42
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Whenever our fathers leaves the room for a bathroom visit or a walk we check his room and photo everything.

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  • JeriLynn66
    JeriLynn66 Member Posts: 918
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    Ossum,

    You've mentioned in another post that Hospice is caring for your Father? They should have a social worker that could assist you with addressing this home situation and safety. Have they not offered assistance in this?

  • terei
    terei Member Posts: 608
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    IMO when he is out of the room, get rid of all this junk….he’ll probably never miss it

  • Ossom
    Ossom Member Posts: 42
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    My brother and I live here helping him discreetly behind the scenes. We aren't allowed to upset him otherwise he will call APS again and they will have us removed via protective order.

    Everything we do to make sure he is fed, the stove is off, matches are hidden, bill are paid ect. are all done in secret. We make sure he never sees us.

    We do what we can, however we are legally limited until he goes to the doctor or dies.

  • Ossom
    Ossom Member Posts: 42
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    Hahaha, dear God no!

    Our father is suffering from untreated Nurosyphilis Dementia. He will notice if something is moved and will become outraged.

    We desperately need to keep the peace and keep him happy. At least for now.

    Currently it's like the Lord of the Flies. We are on the sidelines waiting for the 'adults' to step in.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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