Mom with Anosognosia and lives in a health-care desert

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Good afternoon. I'm new here. My mom will be 81 years old next month. She finally saw a neurologist last week and he ordered bloodwork (done), EEG and MRI. I live 3 hours away and do take time off to take her. I have a sibling who lives in her town, but is no help whatsoever. I even believe they are verbally abusive to my Mom.

I should clarify that she is fairly early stage (still dresses herself, plays on her ipad) Does not cook or drive.

I get so frustrated when I visit and she yells at me for doing things that help her. I cleaned out her fridge and she nearly bit my head off. It was disgusting. I sent her some 'Mom's meals' from the company so she can just microwave them, but she is forgetting to eat. I am not sure if I should hire a home aide a few times a week just so she eats and can have some personal interaction. It will be nearly impossible to find someone where she lives. Years ago when she broke a knee cap, i couldn't even get HHC services.

Any advice is welcome. TY in advance.