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A tough week that got better
Monday and Tuesday were very challenging with dad and him wanting to go to Houston. Then he switched to saying Houston is his home but he is glad he is hear because of the heat in Houston. His birthday (86) was Saturday, which was a good memory day for him. This week on Thursday go to an in-person support group, has anyone…
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shaky departure on a low staff day for dad's memory care plus recent "unwitnessed" injuries
Hello all, Dad really wanted to come with me today as I was leaving. He hasn't done that for a while, so I was out of practice. It was also a very low staff day today. For instance, I had to ring the doorbell three times (with long wait periods in between) for someone to come let me in. So I know there's a pretty good…
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Thank you and update
Thank you for the kind words and support on my earlier discussion post. Monday and Tuesday was at my wits end with Dad. Yesterday and today he has been better. I plan to go to a local Alzheimer's support group the 27th. I also talked to my PCP. My sister is another story, I explained to her I need emotional support and she…
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Confronting Denial
My Dad has FTD with limited mobility. My Mom is his primary caregiver, but she is still in denial and hasn't fully accepted the diagnosis and the situation. She is holding onto how she wants or envisioned things would be in their retirement years rather than adapting and trying to make the best of a very difficult reality.…
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Caregiver Burn Out
My father (he will be 86 on August 22nd) lives with me since my mom passed November 2024. He was diagnosed in 2018. In 2019, the began spending summers with me and wintering in Florida. It got to much for my mom not having help in winters, so in 2021 they began wintering in Texas near my sister. That didn't even last two…
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Struggling to find balance
Hi, dad lives with me and has moderate stage Alzheimer's. Despite lots of other health concerns, his progression has been very slow- I've been giving him care (first IADLs like paying bills, now progressing to physical, Hands-On hygiene and such) for a little more than a decade. In addition to this stressor, last summer I…
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Starting this journey
My 87 y/o mother is in the early stages of Alzheimer's and lives in an apartment building that has stairs to get to her apartment. We have been looking at a smaller apartment that she could purchase that has no stairs for entry. At this point she is still able to do everything except more executive function type things…
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Behavioral ups and downs
Unfortunately my mother’s Alzheimer’s has made her generally very snappy, angry, and anxious but then she’ll dip into periods of sadness/depression/quietness. The past couple days she’s been up and talkative and active, like her old self, which I am enjoying while it lasts. I know that as things progress there can be…
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Is this Alzheimer's or Personality?
My mom is extemely mean to me at times. She has Alzheimer's and I have been taking care of her for 8 years. When I suggest something like for example, "You can put on your pajamas since its night time" She'll respond, "Yeah I'm not stupid, I know what I'm doing" I try to give her as much autonomy as I can, but she is in…
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Brilliant Analogy
This really resonated with me. https://www.facebook.com/reel/1101251472572052 HB
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Mom caring for adult child with memory loss
My first post. I'm 84 and my adult child was diagnosed with moderate cognitive decline 4 months ago. Has been on doctor prescribed vitamin /depression /antipsychotic protocol since then. Has anyone else got this issue?
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Alzheimer's & Alcoholism
My grandmother is a functioning alcoholic & just got diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She refused to have the all day testing done because she would rather sit at home and drink & she hasn't been deemed incompetent to make her own medical decisions so we can't make her do anything she doesn't want to do but they were able to…
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cried through MC breakfast w dad... then tears in the parking lot
Some days I just wanna read posts here and benefit from the sense of community and of understanding. As dad declines and my heart breaks, sometimes I just don't want to be around people who can't understand the things we do and see with our LOs. Maybe I could write a song called tears in the parking lot for those of us who…
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Another Surgery?!?
Today dad goes in for surgery. He has severely unmanaged type 2 diabetes and his last surgery advanced his dementia so much that he has gone from stage 3 to stage 5 quickly. He is having yet another digit removed from his foot and the hospital is acting like it is no big deal… I feel it is a bigger deal than they are…
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Dad...
My Dad was a narcissistic man my entire life so far and now he is in the nursing home for PT from a back surgery he had at the end of April. Since his surgery, we have discovered he has had multiple strokes, he has been delirious and he has vascular dementia. The surgery took 8 hours and with all of his other issues such…
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Caring for dad
I am one of 7 children. My mother just passes away 2 months ago, and my dad was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's. My siblings and I have been trying to care for him by taking turns, but it seems like it's not going to work this way. We all have full time jobs and families. I go back to work in a week and I am stressed that…
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Taking Mom Out
New here - Mom has been in MC for a year (this week actually), she still asks when she is going home and her anger and agitation has increased. We did not take her out of the facility for several months following her admission but have done so more recently (breakfast, shops, etc.) but the last two visits she seems to be…
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one of those self critical days
Hello dear community, I am having one of those days when I question my decisions and see faults and what's lacking. I know that's silly because over these 2+ years I've done several things that needed doing to keep dad safe. Ugh. The reality, though, is that even when I remind myself of the positives I still feel critical.…
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Advice Needed After Moving My YOA Mom from AL to MC
I posted here a while back when my mom was first diagnosed with ALZ and I was trying to move her from FL to GA to be closer to me. She’s 65, I’m 30, and I’ve been her POA for about a year. She’s divorced, so this has all been pretty overwhelming at times. After a really tough few months, my sister and I were able to get…
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Prepared for so much EXECPT every new symptom my Dad has.
My DD stage 4 has been doing really well. He adapted to the lifestyle changes, the MIND diet. His MRI & bloodwork results are encouraging. He wanted to take a trip with me to see my daughter in Law School (it’s always been his dream to have an attorney in the family) we live in PA she is in IL. The plan was to fly out…
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Mom is in MC but we are still questioning if it was too soon
Please help. We moved our mom from assisted living to memory care (within the same facility) a little over 2 weeks ago. She wasn't functioning great in AL in terms of her ability to engage in activities, go on the errand trips, etc. But she was happy. She would walk around the building, say hello and chat with people and…
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I Need Help
Hello! My name is Aaliyah. I am 23. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was 2 months old. They've raised me without any help from my biological parents. In 2016, my freshmen year of highschool, I lost my grandfather to Alzheimer's. I took it insanely hard. I was one of the only ones he remembered in the end. I had…
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Need advice
Hi all! I just joined needing support , advice, somewhere to vent. My mother has had several mini strokes (TIA) in the past few years. Since then she has rapidly declined with memory, decision making, daily functioning etc. She is now diagnosed with mixed dimentia (vascular dimentia and alzheimers). It explains her…
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New here...
Only child caring for 90 YO Mom. Started with neuro last year, and he diagnosed dementia. Didn't really tell much info. She'd had several episodes of people spying on her, trying to break in, etc. We put up cameras, etc and that seemed to stop that kind of thing. That let us know there were things indicative of something…
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From the NYT: The Pain of Caring for a Parent Who Abused You
Gifted link. C&P into your browser. https://www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/magazine/elder-care-parent-abuse.html?unlocked_article_code=1.qVA.g6x3.dCf7rxwmWlbP&smid=url-share
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Worried About My Mom
The symptoms are certainly not new but especially over the past year they seem to be getting worse and worse. I'm getting to the point where I feel confident that I know what is happening to Mom and I don't really know what I can do. My mom and I have always had a really difficult relationship and I live across the country…
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Navigating mom's move to MC from six hours away
Hello, I'm really glad I found this resource and hope I can get some support from online. Brief history: I live about 6 hours from my family. About 10 years ago my mom had a TIA and was fine until about March last year, when she fell and hit her head--either another stroke or balance problems; no idea. My dad covered for…
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Her Sun Has Risen...
I know the discussion title is a little unusual, but I chose to title it that way to reflect her freedom from the disease on this side of life. That's how I like to think of it anyway in order to retain some sort of sanity. My mom, diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2018, transitioned in late-August of this year. I am her only…
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Dad's Almost Totally Impossible to Communicate With - Help Needed
[I've been a lurker for a few months, but I'm hoping to get some advice. Thanks, in advance.] My Dad (82) was diagnosed with early-stage Alzheimer's just under a year ago. Yes, I was floored. But it made sense, too. We'd been fighting for a few years regarding how he's [not] been communicating me in a reliable manner. For…