Caregiver who is a nurse

debscohenrn

Hi,

This is my first post. My mom has dementia that has progressed to moderate. She is very stubborn and becomes belligerent if she does not get her way. She does not realize that she has memory issues and doesn’t understand why we are not allowing her to be alone. She is refusing to shower because she thinks she showers every day when in fact it has been a month. The hard part for me is I am a Complex care Nurse care manger, I work with adult children of parents with dementia every day. None of the strategies I teach work with my mom. Are there any other nurses here that feel like complete failures because they can't handle their own family member?

Thanks for listening

Deb

ronda b

I've taken care of my mom and dad, not with alz with other terminal disease. They were the hardest pt. I have ever taken care of. I was a nurse 30 years. Non of the tricks of the trade worked on them.

cdgbdr

I'm a master's prepared RN with an administrative specialty. It has helped but I don't have very high expectations after dealing with two parents and other family members with dementia. You do the best you can and don't beat yourself up over lack of perfection. This is hard.