Not Sure What Is Happening to Mom

JayB83

Hi everyone - I’m new here and I’m kind of just looking for info and maybe some small emotional support. My mom is 73 and for the last 3-4 years she has been having random mood swings and changes in personality. Most of the time when I speak to her, she has a circular conversation and repeats the same story over and over. She lives overseas, so it has been difficult to get her to go to a reliable Dr. of the 10 early warning signs, she is only exhibiting the repetition and changes in personality. It sometimes feels as though she does not remember saying what she just said in the conversation. Otherwise, she is healthy and pretty lucid. Just looking for any basic solidarity or similar experiences anyone has had that sound like this. Thanks.

SDianeL

welcome. Sorry for the reason you are here. The behaviors you describe are very common with dementia. Google 7 Stages of Dementia and look for a chart with behaviors listed in each stage. Just know that behaviors may overlap stages or not show up until later. She should see a doctor to rule out other conditions that can cause memory loss and confusion. Is there someone with her that can assist? Some people have had success telling their loved one that their insurance requires they visit. Then speak to the doctor before the visit and tell them about her behaviors. Soon your Mom will require 24/7 care if she doesn’t already, for safety reasons she should not be alone. Is there an Agency for the Elderly where she is? Come here often to ask questions or for support.

cap5764

I’m in a similar situation but not long distance. My mother was diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment but with the changes in her mood and behavior and our strong family history of dementia and Alzheimer’s I’m pretty positive it is heading that way. My mother denies having any memory issues. She almost gets paranoid like everyone is out to get her. She lashes out and it is so hurtful. I kind of had to trick her into going to a geriatric doctor so at least we got an initial assessment but she refuses to go back. Sending support to you. I don’t have any easy answers. I can imagine it is even harder from far away. Is there anyone who lives by her that can help at least get an initial assessment if she is agreeable?