Trying to help primary caregiver

AviezerS

Personal status: secondary caregiver; grandson

(Grandpa in hospital intubated, Grandma watching over him; I visit sometimes)

What's something primary caregivers wish a family member/other caregiver had done for you and/or the patient? I visit occasionally and sometimes bring stuff from their house to the hospital. Grandma's staying at the hospital with him, sometimes overnight.

Palmetto Peg

Does your Grampa have dementia? Why is he intubated? His age and other conditions would help us give you some suggestions. Hugs - this is so hard!

Maru

Look aaround your Grandmother's home. What needs to be taken care of…dripping faucet, laundry, cleaning, lawn mowed, overgrown shrubs trimmed. Can you provide a good meal for your grandmother for when she takes a break and goes home? If she has been your grandfather's caretaker, that means that she is also the primary ( and probably the ONLY caretaker for everything in and outside the house, so she does everything). Anything that you can do at the house that needs to be done will be a blessing to her…and tell her what you have done as she may be too overwhelmed to even notice.

Sorry that you find yourself in this sad place.

AviezerS

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/257980#Comment_257980

sorry, right- uh… Alzheimers, (diabetes 2), congestive heart Failure, Afib, Angina… he's not getting out of the hospital anytime soon basically

AviezerS

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https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/257983#Comment_257983

hmmm…. I can clean up the various rooms, but she is very insistent on being the one to cook. Even if I ordered food she'd insist on paying me back. Unsure how she'd feel about me doing the laundry.

I'm kinda limited because she doesn't like accepting charity and views me as her little grandson (I'm 22)