Trying to help primary caregiver

Look aaround your Grandmother's home. What needs to be taken care of…dripping faucet, laundry, cleaning, lawn mowed, overgrown shrubs trimmed. Can you provide a good meal for your grandmother for when she takes a break and goes home? If she has been your grandfather's caretaker, that means that she is also the primary ( and probably the ONLY caretaker for everything in and outside the house, so she does everything). Anything that you can do at the house that needs to be done will be a blessing to her…and tell her what you have done as she may be too overwhelmed to even notice.

Sorry that you find yourself in this sad place.

Hospitals are noisy, cold, low humidity, and boring! What about making sure there is a way for her to play music (bluetooth speaker or cd player?) warm shawl or wrap, chapstick or hand lotion, and maybe books or magazines? Really soft Kleenex!

I've also found that ICU families tend to form a bit of a community in the waiting rooms. Maybe ask her if she would like to do something nioce for the others that you can facilitate but give her credit for? Bring in some bakery cookies or a selection of used books to be shared? Your grandma has no control of anything right now and would maybe really enjoy feeling like she can be of use, or bring happiness, to others.