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Welcome. My mom was told at diagnosis she was not safe to live alone. She lived with my brother who works full time for 1 year. Her executive functioning, logic and reasoning made it sketchy for her to be left alone in the house. She has anosognosia and believes she can do things she is not capable of. This might mean using a chair to change a lightbulb (she is very unsteady on her feet), frying bacon and forgetting, deciding to walk to her house 10 blocks from where she was living with my brother… My point is, the time when she needs 24/7 supervision is going to come quickly. Most adult children have jobs and a life that makes this impossible, so even is you felt you were mentally capable, realistically it probably still wouldn’t work. I found that a facility offered mom activities and a chance to socialize and make friends. At my brothers she was alone for long periods of time and didn’t even bother to get dressed some days. Mom was much better off in Al. I didn’t take mom in because she told me “living with me would be her worst nightmare“. Family dynamics are tough.
Your local commission on aging may offer something helpful, but still it’s only going to be safe for her to be in her home for so long. If there is enough value in her home you could sell it to cover the cost of Al. If not p, Medicaid may need to be looked into. Qualification and what is covered varies by state. A lawyer can help. I will attach a link that may be helpful. You should know that facilities can have a waiting list. It’s probably best to get a plan B in place as soon as possible. I know there is so much to do and everything is so overwhelming. I have attached a few other resources I wish I had in the beginning.

DBAT.pdf

understanding-the-dementia-experience.pdf

Anosognosia and Dementia - AgingCare.com.pdf

https://www.consumerfinance.gov/consumer-tools/managing-someone-elses-money/

https://www.medicaidplanningassistance.org/medicaid-eligibility-income-chart/