Finding My Way

Nosokoma

Hello! I recently moved my 79 y/o brother in with me from a different state after the death of his wife last November. He is wheelchair bound with multiple sclerosis and has just been diagnosed with mid stage Alzheimer's. He's had a difficult time adjusting to the new changes and has no desire to meet people in this area. I'm concerned about the lack of stimulation and social interaction, as his only interest is the tv. I've tried card games, ipad games, offering to take him places, but he's content to sit in front of the tv watching the same series over and over. Has anyone else had this experience and how were you able to find a suitable solution?

Quilting brings calm

Mild cognitive impairment( your tag) is not mid-stage dementia. MCI is a point where really family can really tell that there’s something off. What you are describing- mid-stage including tagging incontinence is much further along. It’s a point at which social interaction becomes difficult due to the cognitive decline. Apathy also is often present at this stage, so him wanting to just watch TV is not a surprise. Really, just let him do it.

terei

Agree with quilting. Apathy is part of the disease. I doubt any of your efforts will succeed in him being interested in socializing

Nosokoma

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/274060#Comment_274060

Thank you. I appreciate the clarification… and for your suggestion. So much to learn!

H1235

I agree with the other comments. I will attach a staging tool that might be helpful.

DBAT.pdf

Victoriaredux

Input from audio and visual activities can create confusion and stress for a PWD. It is a comfort for them to NOT have to process the type of social activities non PWD enjoy. You may want to keep your eye on which shows are on - at some point news , war series , etc create stress or fake memories then it's time for cooking and nature shows

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Nosokoma

That is valuable information. Thank you! That would explain the constant replaying of the same comedy series. I am very grateful for your comments.

Nosokoma

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/274093#Comment_274093

Thanks so much.

SusanB-dil

Hi Nosokoma - welcome to 'here', but sorry for the reason

I agree with the others, but also want to just add a thought - Do look into adult daycare in your area for a day or few a week. This could help him some (but I'm sorry, don't expect a lot), but it could also help you get some respite.

Nosokoma

That's a wonderful idea. I will definitely look into that. Thank you!

Nosokoma

JP,

You've given me a wealth of information and I am grateful for your suggestions and encouragement. Thank you! And, thank you for including the sources… my day has brightened already!

Warmth and gratitude.

H1235

Some places have a community daycare program for people with dementia. Your local commission on aging could help. This might give you a break for a few hours as well as get him out of the house.