Incontinence Issues

audcam9077

Parent refuses to wear disposable briefs/diapers

Any recommendations?

craftygalinstl

For my mom, I started buying her Depends Silhouette, they really feel like real underwear above the crotch. They are a little more expensive but it was worth it to get her to wear them. They are less bulky and very absorbent. When she started referring to the Depends as “my underwear,” I threw away all of her underwear and filled her underwear drawer with Depends, folding them up the same way she folded her underwear.

My Dad was more difficult, the best Depends for him were gray. So, I replaced all of his underwear with real underwear that was gray. After about a month, I did the same as I did the same as I did with my Mom, folding it and putting it in the underwear drawer. However, now I’m worried that he’s not even trying to use the toilet. I don’t know this for sure, he lives in a Memory Care facility, but he has a very small, open bedsore.

SusanB-dil

When the time came MIL needed them, we switched out the ones in her drawer so the adult-underwear is all she had available.

If your parent asks, tell them you will look into it and see what you can do.

Anonymousjpl123

This is an issue I have more experience with than I ever wanted.

1. have you tried the colors/printed kind? You may be ably to put them on top of her others or as others shared swap them out
2. There are some underwear you put pads in. It was too complicated for my mom but some have found it helpful
3. Go with her to buy them and say you are also buying them for yourself because you have the same problem
4. If worst comes to worst (and I pray you never experience this) there are adult jumpsuits that they can’t take off. That’s more if she’s in memory care and won’t use them

Incontinence was one of the most painful parts of my mom’s progression. Unfortunately it does get easier when our loved ones are further advanced as they typically get less resistant and more open to care.

harshedbuzz

@audcam9077

Definitely start off with the fancier versions replacing everything in their drawer.

If they require a dressing-assist, put the briefs inside the pants and pull both up at the same time. My aunt talked her sister into them as "newfangled disposable panties" to cut down on laundry. Sister had lived with a tetchy septic system, so this made sense.

HB

pjasso

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/282381#Comment_282381

That is my Go-To Answer for everything, "agree" or say, "I'll look into it and see what I can do". It brings down her anxiety knowing she is "heard" and someone is looking into it for her. I may have to say it many more times, but she doesn't remember.

pmiles1124

Isn't always at the crack of dawn the incontinence issues happen! I was up the other night 3 times changing my DH.