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John1965

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You said in another thread that tomorrow you would be placing your DW in an MCF (or today according to this site's time stamps). 

I wish you the best and hope that it goes as uneventfully as mine did three weeks ago. BTW I visit her every day starting with the day after placement. On placement day the MCF arranged a separate lunch for my DW, my daughter, myself, and the director. Then the director in a very kind manner, took her off to an activity. DW went without looking back. Tears on my part, but she has been OK there since. 

Best of luck to you. I believe you are doing the right thing based on the rationale you have previously given.  Let us know how it goes. 

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  • Dio
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    John, thanks for sharing your experience on the thread I had started about researching MCFs. Wishing you a smooth placement! (I still have a long way to go...)

  • Jeff86
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    My thoughts are with you, John, on this very challenging day. I hope your DW accepts placement and that you find relief and peace along with other, tougher emotions.
  • M1
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    Me too John.  Be prepared, coming home to that very quiet house is hard.  Will be thinking about you, do let us know how it goes.
  • Ed1937
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    John, please check back with us to let us know how things go. Wishing the best for both of you.
  • Hoot619
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    MI mentioned empty house and the tears are still running. I'm glad you have placed in MC, it will get you refreshed and help you with quality time with her.
  • Beachfan
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    John,

    Best of luck today for a smooth transition.  Just know you are doing the right thing for both of you. Stay strong. It will get better, I promise.   

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
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