Bad night-Need to vent, share my solutions & discuss options.

My DH, 78, diagnosed 2 years ago, recent changed diagnosis not good: Rare ALZ-Posterior Cortical Atrophy. He's Stage 4 on the ALZ-PCA staging which is Stage 5 on the ALZ Dementia Staging. He's been angry & agitated & is on 1/2 tab Risperidone am & pm which is not helping. He's also been very depressed lately saying he doesn't like himself and he wants to be his "old" self. 😪 I sent a message to his Geri Psychiatrist to call me next week.

Last night I got up at 3am to take something for pain. My DH got up to go to the bathroom, came into the kitchen instead & went to the front door of our apartment & tried to open it! I said where are you going? don't open the door! He didn't respond. It was like he didn't even know I was there. Like he was sleep walking. Before I got to him & the door, he had opened it and was going outside to use the bathroom. I calmly said the bathroom is this way and he got so angry and started yelling at me insisting he was going out even trying to push me out of his way. I got between him & the door and pointed the way to the bathroom. He was totally lost & confused. Finally got him pointed in the right direction. After he used the toilet, instead of going back to bed he went & sat in his chair but didn't say anything. I said let's go back to bed now, he yelled at me again. So I just waited. After about 10 minutes, he said "I'm going back to bed" and stood up but had no idea where the bedroom was. We're in an 840 sq. ft 1 bedroom apartment. I took his hand & said I would take him there. He went with me & got back in bed & went right to sleep. Of course I was up all night crying. 😪

Today I ordered locks for our front door so he can't get out. I also ordered a monitor to wake me if he gets out of bed. I ordered a waterproof mattress cover since the next stage will more than likely bring incontinence. I knew this was coming but it's still devastating when it happens.

I am so afraid that his anger and yelling will cause neighbors to complain & the apartment complex will ask us to leave. I haven't told them he has ALZ yet. Maybe now I should. If I can't get the Geriatric Psychiatrist to give him something to help calm him, I may have no choice but to look into MC facilities sooner that later. Should I get on the waiting list for a MC facility?? Should I call Caregiver Support at the VA and see what they say? I am devastated and feel so helpless.