Frustrating vent

Have you considered getting in-home help or daycare for him so that you can get a break?

I’d stop with the coffee on the couch, and have him drink it at the kitchen table. Does that put him in your way making breakfast? Yes, but I imagine cleaning the kitchen floor is easier than the coffee table and the living room floor.

Also put an old sheet under and around his kitchen chair to catch sone of the mess. It can be shook out outside and then tossed in the washer

Can he fold towels? If so, have him do that while you crotchet.

Adult sippy cup

Can he rake leaves?

Iris

@Judy.T.

This sounds horribly frustrating.

In your shoes, I would do what I could to contain the mess. You're basically in the same stage as the mom of a toddler discovering gravity. Limit foods and beverages to the kitchen exclusively. Alternately, you could offer water only in the living room.

When DS was in this phase, I parked him on a plastic shower curtain for meals. After, I could shake it out and launder it if needed. I had several in rotation.

These sippy cups sound like a good idea, but it also sounds as if your DH has progressed in the disease to a point where he can't learn new ways of doing things. Even simple things like a new travel mug were beyond him.

HB

I have nothing to add, but virtual support. To say that thus is a tough row to hoe is mild. The sorting, folding suggestions are good ones. I thought of another task. If like my guy, has a drawer of socks, take 4 pair out so you have some for actual use, then unpaired the rest. Blacks, browns, sports, and give them to him to sort.

My heart ❤️ shares your frustration. It is good to vent, and this is a safe place to do so.

Kathy

Hey Judy T. It sounds like you're hanging in there, and doing the best anyone could!

My DH has variations of this. He cannot anticipate the consequences of his actions. He leaves apple cores and banana peels and crackers around the house, if not monitored. I guide him back to the kitchen and try to get him to sit and eat there. A TV with utube videos of his favorite sports events, or travelogues can keep him in one place temporarily. I've found that scheduled snack times in the kitchen helps. I peel apples and cut into pieces so he is less likely to spit them out. I eliminated coffee, which calmed him down somewhat. Also, a daily walk is essential.

I know that he still likes the house clean. He will pick up pieces of dirt from the rug, but not realize the dirty shoes on his feet are leaving the crud. I try to make him remove shoes the minute we come inside and wear house shoes. But if it takes too long to get the boots off, he will water the bushes, Before I bring in groceries, I need to check whether he needs the toilet and help him get there. I store his boots in a secret locked chest as he likes to dress up in hiking outfits. The tread on them holds rocks that scratch the floors.

He loves to wipe surfaces with whatever is at hand, so I wash a dozen kitchen towels and several pairs of gloves daily. He thinks he's helping, but it just smears, or distributes crumbs or dirt. Giving him rags helps, but I can't always get them to him in time.

Sometimes I sing, substituting words to old tunes, and my singing & dancing makes him laugh, and then we get along better.

Best of luck to you.