Have any questions about how to use the community? Check out the Help Discussion.

Mom fell again. . .

ghphotog
ghphotog Member Posts: 675
500 Care Reactions 500 Comments 100 Likes Second Anniversary
Member
edited May 7 in Caring for a Parent

And fractured her c2, has a brain bleed and is now on hospice back at her MC. She's conscious but eating and drinking very little. She's on liquid diet for swallowing. I take her little dog to see her every day as well as bring her a Coca-Cola. She likes that and I help her drink it from a straw. I don't think she'll make it very long, maybe another week or two but my mom is a fighter so hard to say.

My DW is in MC as well so mornings I visit my mom and afternoons I visit my wife. The constant emotional and financial toll slowly errodes my well being. Like a dripping faucet that can't be repaired. Some days are better than others but the constant never ending drips called worry, heartache and concern are always there, day and night.

We all feel it. The struggle is real for everyone of us.

One more thing, my mom had a hard life. She was never loved or treated well by my dad. He always made her feel ugly and even though she finally divorced him she still was his caregiver until he died. Anyway, the other day she was mumbling about these "men" who were in her room and they were telling her how beautiful she was and how much she was loved. At first I chalked it up to injuries, dementia and medication but the more I think about it the more I'm not sure.

Comments

  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 1,149
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary 100 Likes 25 Insightfuls Reactions
    Member

    You are dealing with a lot. Are you taking ANY time for YOU?

    Agree - we never know how long a LO will stay. Her vision you are describing is certainly interesting.

  • ghphotog
    ghphotog Member Posts: 675
    500 Care Reactions 500 Comments 100 Likes Second Anniversary
    Member

    Yes, with both in MC, even though it's still a lot, I have time to try and play a little golf or visit with friends.

  • psg712
    psg712 Member Posts: 384
    100 Care Reactions 100 Likes 100 Comments 25 Insightfuls Reactions
    Member

    So glad that her visions are comforting. Prayers for your comfort too. You are a devoted son and husband.

  • Hope5757
    Hope5757 Member Posts: 150
    100 Comments 25 Likes 25 Care Reactions 5 Insightfuls Reactions
    Member

    @ghphotog -

    I was just about to post an “I can’t do this anymore” post. But blessedly, I read your post and I realized my load is light in comparison.

    Thank you for the encouragement!

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
Read more