Mother's Day was hard

djhicks · May 13

Celebrating any holiday, birthday, or significant life event has become so hard since DW has been diagnosed with VD, psychosis, and AFIB. It's hard to see her living in a reality that seems to torture her with fear, anger, and sadness brought on by memory struggles and delusions. I feel so powerless to help and because in her reality I'm the villain of her story, I cannot comfort her or reassure her that she is safe and loved. I feel like this disease is holding my whole family hostage. It blocks me at every turn as I try to help the woman I have loved for over 30 years.

M1 · May 13

it was hard here too. My partner and I don't have children together. But my daughter by a previous marriage had a miscarriage on May 5 at 12 weeks. So none of us were in any mood to commemorate Mother's Day. And of course I couldn't tell my partner, she doesn't even remember my daughter any more. I find it's best to let most holidays just slide right on by. Don't know that they'll ever regain much feel of celebration. Our best times are unpredic table and only to be savored in the rare moment. Hope you have those occasionally to. You know in your heart of hearts you're not the villain, but it's painful to be perceived that way.

easy23 · May 13

I couldn't tell my husband that it was Mother's Day because I was afraid that he would want to go see his mother (deceased). Good thing all of the mentions of Mother's Day on the TV didn't register with him!

SSHarkey · May 14

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/209019#Comment_209019

Oh M1, I’m so sorry. Both my daughters lost their second babies in the first trimester. It’s so hard. I’ll be praying for you all, especially the parents.

Arrowhead · May 14

I took flowers to my wife in memory care. She held them for a few minutes then let them drop to the floor. I think she didn't even know what they were.

Mother's Day was hard

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